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She is a christian I'm not.
Hey guys. I would love any and all advice. So my question is if its worth a shot? Here is the situation: so I met a girl I realy like. There is one problem she is a Christian and I am a LaVayan Satanist (no that dose not mean I'm a devil worshiper if you think so I encourage you to reasearch the subject). I know she is a Christian because I whent to her church with a few freinds one time and that's were I met her. The sermon that was given the night that I went was on relationships. The pastor said that Christians shouldn't date people who are not a Christian. I'm not sure if she belivies that or not. I have no problem having a relationship with some one of a diferent religion. I would never try to convert her of go against what she wished. I guess what I want to ask is it worth basicaly asking her to possibly go against what she belivies to have a relationship together or should I just forget about her. Thank you for the help.
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Well don't just assume that she believes the exact same thing as the pastor.
I'd take the chance, I mean the worst she could say is no.
If she's fine with dating someone outside of her religion, the that's fine. If not, then just move on.
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There's no harm in trying... So long as she's not a fanatical Christian that will constantly tell you that you're going to hell, I don't see a reason that religion should get in the way...
You're not gonna look good to her family... there's that... but you don't really NEED to tell them you're a Satanist... it's not like you're "spreading the good word" to them in some attempt to save their souls, you know? It doesn't need to be advertised.
If you like the girl, ask her if she'd be interested. If she says yes, you can try it. If she says she'd rather date a Christian, you don't really want to date her anyway...
The worst she can say is no...
Well... actually the worst she can say is that you're going to hell and throw holy water at you... but what are the chances that'll happen in real life?
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People engage with their faith differently. There is no reason to automatically assume she agrees with her Pastor on every topic.
Go ahead and like her, and don't make assumptions about what she must think or believe based on what other people who also call themselves Christian, or belong to her church. You wouldn't want her to make assumptions about your beliefs like that.
But you should keep your eyes and ears open as you get to know her. As part of a large, organized Christian church, she'll be under more pressure to conform than you are, and many Christian groups have a focus on conversion of others. Just because you are comfortable dating someone of another faith, and respecting those differences, doesn't mean she will be as comfortable with that idea, or that she won't have influencers around her who have a problem with that approach.
If you are just getting to know her now though, keep doing that, listening and asking questions. You still have plenty of conversations to be had before you ask her to date you, right?
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That's something the both of you need to decide together. It seems like you really like her and want to give this a chance which is great. Love is unconditional and race or religion should have nothing to do with it, that being said not everyone believes that so its something you should talk to her about. Ask her if she would pursue a relationship with you knowing your not Christian if not then you move on.
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