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My boyfriends friend who has a wife that is jealous.
I have a female friend..who is extreamly jealous..way to much to where she gets agravated when her husband even looks at another woman on t.v and mouths to him ."oh does that turn u on"and just other stuff that is not right. They have been at my house hanging out talking, listening to music..and she will spaz out for no reason and attempt to throw things at him. She actually hasnt done that yet but it has got to the point now to where I dont even want her at my house. Also she is so jealouse that she accused her husband of cheating and doing this or that..when she has been the one infact being caught talkn to her ex husband and who knows who else. We are all cool with eachother and all but also. I had went to her house without her there. just to hang out for a bit and have someone to talk to. MY boyfriend as well knew I was there. He didnt care but the friends wife is who would have spazed out if she new I was there with out her being there. She has told me noumerous times how her and my boyfriend talk all the time as she claimes and i dont care.. but I know she would care if I told her that me and her husband talked all day . Its like for her its ok but if her husband was doing it then hes cheating and trying to sleep with whores. I dont get it. I told him it wont change and she will continue to be the same. What else advice could I tell our friend to convince him he is better off with someone else. Thanks in advance.
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He should divorce her and you should find a new friend
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I can't say whether this gal will ever change during her lifetime. But treatment like that by especially a female partner toward her guy usually kills the mans love and respect for her. Dating coaches on the web who counsel women in the do's and don't of relationships list the jealousy and checking up on the guy thing as one of the big no-no's. If he is willing to accept this treatment from her, it will emasculate him and possibly kill his sex drive. Maybe he saw this at home growing up, and thinks its normal? Its hard to know what to tell him not knowing anything about him. And what's worse, he's not the one asking for help. You are the one wanting to help. But unless someone is asking and in the mode of ready to recieve some constructive advice, they will likely not respond to any helpful info offered. Now if you tell him about this site and he wants to know if this is normal or not and if not what to do about the relationship, then he will write to us and be open to hear advice. He's in a bad situation that requires counseling. if the gal is even willing to go for marriage counseling, it may up with her requiring private one on one lessons for her issues. Just the examples you give sound like a possibility of a case of verbal abuse against him. So he may need counseling as an abuse victim.
I also know that It's hard to get an abused person to respond to friends and family trying to help them see how bad a situation is. So if he's being verbally abused, he may not be in a state of mind to want to leave. I know...I was there once...verbally abused by ex. I had to learn to love my slef enough to no longer want to expose myself to such damaging treatment. The stress of living with such treatment 24/7 will eventually take its toll on a person, either mentally/emotionally with low self image, depression etc, or physically with migraines, headaches, stomach ulcers, high blood pressure, etc... So there are some things he needs to know of how this relationship can and will eventually affect him. Is he really okay with that? He may not believe it but someday he will hopefully see it and ask for help.
You're a good friend.
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