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Friend crush turning into more?
There's this kid that I've definitely been friend crushing on lately, I just think he's cool and think he'd be a great friend, a cool person to hang out with. The other day, my friend needed him to do something for her but he was at home for the weekend. His roommate is one of my best friends so I got his number from my best friend (his roommate) and texted him what my friend needed.
Since texting him, we've been talking more in person and I definitely think I might have reeled him in. The other day, a group of us was going to Applebees, I texted him and asked if he wanted to go, he told me he's been spending way too much money on food lately and thinks he should stay that night in. I said okay, no problem. My friends and I got to Applebees, and he was there with three other people. The girl I was sitting next to at Applebees told me about 15 minutes into us being there that he was waving his hands trying to get my attention so I didn't look because I was upset that he told me he wasn't going just for me to go and see him there. A few minutes after that, he texted me "I really wasn't planning on coming tonight. They wouldn't shut up until I agreed to come. It's nothing against you, I promise." I went to Applebees with his roommate and showed him the text and asked if he texted him and he checked his phone and he didn't, he didn't text my roommate either.
The other day, we had an exam in class. He messaged me when he was done taking it, before I went in to take mine and told me specific things to look over and remember for it. The next day, our grades went out and he texted me what he got, he didn't even tell his friends first, he texted me when he found out what he got.
I know it isn't enough to go off of but I'd just appreciate if you would tell me what you think about the situation. I don't want to pester him all the time if he's just being nice or whatever. Do you think he wants to be friends, too? Maybe more?
Thanks.
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Finding reasons to be near the person one is attracted to and finding reasons to talk to is a good sign that they are interested in the other. Whether the interest grows from there depends on how well you both communicate, how you spend time together, ie:times talking more rather than watching a movie together and not talking, and finding similar hobbies to do together.
If he feels close enough to you to want to tell you his grade on a test and cared enough about you to give you pointers, that is a good sign.
To find out if he is interested in more than friends, try some subtle flirting with him.
Besides breaking into smiles when you see him, trying finding natural ways to touch him briefly while in conversation with him in person. This conveys an interest as people don't tend to do that if not interested in the other. Touch his forearm briefly as you talk, I naturally touch people I know when I talk and I tend to touch only 3 seconds at the most and sometimes it's less. If he's said something funny or teased you a playful but not hard slap on the shoulder is great along with a comment, "Geez, you make me laugh all the time, or you're such a tease---but I love it! You can find other reasons to touch such as saying to hold still cus you want to remove an eyelash off their face or something from their hair. Even if nothings there, its a good excuse to pretend for the opportunity. Ever notice how a guy will reach out and tuck a strand of a girls hair behind her ear? Thats a guys version of doing the same. A really close 'just friend' who is male could be comfortable enough to flirt this way too. The difference over time is that he waits to see how favorably you respond to his touch and flirting before attempting to put an arm around you and holding hands and then go for a kiss. So its a process of steps.
Good luck!
Anyone not into you as more than friends will not
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Well, he could have gotten up and walked to your table & at least said hi in Applebee's. BUT, lets give him the benefit of the doubt. Forget about this incident & move on.
It seems he is now anxious to get to know you. I wouldn't worry about pestering him. If he sends a text then he expects a response. Thats not pestering. I don't know the situation but perhaps he didn't really know who you were when you asked him to applebees. He went, he got a look at you & liked what he saw. Start fresh & make friends. :)
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