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A Guy I Work With
There's this guy I work with that I started talking to. Well, he admitted that he likes me a lot the other day and I couldn't tell him that I like him back because I'm not sure if I do or not. I know if you like someone, the feeling should just come natural and all that jazz. I had him over the other night and we watched a movie on the couch and without even realizing it, I laid my head on his shoulder. Then when he went to leave, he leaned in to kiss me and I turned away. He makes me feel special, he really really does. I've never been in a real relationship, though, so maybe this actually happening and maybe turing into more is scaring me but I just don't really feel that spark and I didn't have the desire to lean in halfway and kiss him when he leaned in. When we don't text each other, though, I do kind of miss talking to him but when we do text, he comes on a little too strong. Such as me telling him my grandmom was in the hospital, he (without knowing any of my family) asked if he could go with me to the hospital because he believes it's easier if someone goes with you.
I just don't know what to think. I know what it's like to really like someone and I don't feel that for this guy but I like talking to him and hanging out with him.
What's my deal? I'm so confused.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
There are some things you do like about him, not enough for a romantic life long relationship. Thats what dating is about, finding those things you do like and sometimes its one or two things about each person you date as well as the things you don't like that make for an unhealthy relationship, things to avoid.
So tell him you don't have those kinds of feelings or desires but you do like him as a person and release him to go find a female who does. But you could remain friends if he's okay with that.
When you've met the right guy, you'll be wanting and looking forward to the time you kiss the first time instead of being scared cus you havent done it before. The lack of desire, feeling no spark can come over time with a guy that a girl has been best friends with for years like almost growing up together but if this is a recent getting together with this guy and all you feel is just friendship and feel he comes on too strong at other times, then best to follow your instincts as he is likely not the right one for you. Do make your wish list for a guy. My angels told me to do so when I began dating after a bad marriage. I got almost everything on my list. He just doesnt like to dance and doesnt sing. Put on your list the things you do like so much about this guy. Make it the must haves/needs (ie being of same religion, no more than 10 yrs age difference...etc) and also the frills/wants such as a guy into jogging or running, who likes gardening, has long hair, etc..) These things would be great and you'd like it alot but theyre not deal breakers. Good luck dear.
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