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Best friend's boyfriend...?
My best friend recently started dating a guy she really likes. Well let's just call my friend Lucy and the guy Jim. Okay anyways, Jim is a jerk. Sometimes, out of nowhere, he will text me and start offending me for no reason. I blocked him, but still he is really annoying and a jerk. He really makes her happy, but I just can't stand him at all. What should I do? I've told her the things he's said to me but all she says is "Ohhh".
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Well you can't really make her choices. The best thing to do would be to ignore him. I mean you talked to her and she's still planning on being with him so he's going to be around.
Blocking him was good. If he bothers you in person, just try to leave the situation or if you have to stay there, don't react to him. Unless he's stalking you, threatening you or harassing you, then you can't really do much to get him in trouble and make him stop. He just sounds extremely immature.
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Regardless of whether someone elses boyfriend is contacting you to have nice chat or to bug you on purpose, a guy really has no business contacting his girlfriends 'friends' on the side. If he sees you and talks to you in a group setting, thats one thing but this sends warning bells off for me. She may be starving for attention from a male so just the fact that he gives her some has her really liking him . But that doesn't mean that he is a nice guy or that he is treating her well at all. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do regarding her hanging out with him. Blocking Jim was a good choice. Try to avoid being with Lucy when Jim plans to be around. And you could ask her before getting together if Jim will be there as you'd rather not associate with him. Hopefully the dating won't last long and they will break up soon and the situation come to an end.
Without knowing the context of what he is saying and doing towards you, whether its more to threaten you, stalking you, or what , I really can't be of more help.
For all I know, this could be a case of a foolish immature high school boy's way of having fun by bugging anyone he happens to know through association of friends or girlfriends. If this is the case,
I would have to say that the best thing to do is try to just paste a smile on your face and not react to anything he says to you. If there is no reaction to anything he says or does, he will eventually stop trying because the pay off for Jim would be the reactions he gets out of you, or even what you say to your girlfriend Lucy in private about what he does to bug you. She will at some point be telling him what you said to her so he will hear through her just how much he is getting to you and takes his pay off, and he will be encouraged to continue. So stop talking to her about Jim and what he's doing.
Good luck!
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