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advice on making self harm cuts disappear fast.
Recently I've been feeling quite empty and I have cut myself on my leg with a razor. There's a lot of them. The problem is that my boyfriend is coming over in a couple of days and if he sees them he will flip, maybe even break up with me. Don't get me wrong, he's really understanding, but he thought I wouldn't be stupid enough to do it. Also I lied and told him that I wouldn't do it. I NEED to get rid of them NOW. Any suggestions as to what I can do? Bearing in mind these are fresh cuts and they they haven't yet started healing. Any advice would be much appreciated, thanks.
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There is no way to get rid of a cut. This is your body and it heals the way it wants to. You really have no control over this situation.
You need to seek professional help though. Self harm is a serious issue that needs to be stopped. It's better to just solve the problem rather than hide it and risk losing relationships over it. There are people who went through years of schooling to help you with your problems and help you find better ways to deal with what you're feeling (or what you're not feeling).
If your boyfriend breaks up with you over this, he's not worth your time and obviously not as understanding as you're thinking.
I just want to add that you shouldn't be with someone who will flip out over this.
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There's no way to make cuts disappear fast. Your body heals on its own time schedule. Ointments might prevention infection. Many write in also asking how to get rid of the scars once it's healed and agains thats hard to say what might work on one person, for it may not work as well on another. Vitamin E on scars/to diminish them but I've not heard anything about putting that on fresh wounds.
If you can't learn how to be open and honest to share what you are going through, you won't be ready to see a professional to deal with the mental/emotional hurts that are causing the stress/pain/depression which makes you want to cut in the first place. If you can't be 'REAL' with him, especially if you are in a relationship, then this secret will always be between you , keeping you both from growing any closer, because whether he is aware of it or not....you are. And your actions as you are now asking "how to hide it or heal it instantly" are the very things that may keep this relationship from ever getting any closer. Some day you will hopefully be in a long term relationship or marriage with a man who is your best friend, and his love is unconditional...meaning you don't have to meet any ideals or quota's to earn his love and respect. He'll be a person who will encourage you to reach to be always the best that you can be, supporting you in following your dreams and hopes, not tearing them down.
This may be one way to find out what he is made of, see if he will be loving and understanding and want better for you and willing to lend his strength, encouragement and support or not be understanding, despite the fact that you lied. A person hurt emotionally may lie, not because they indeed to be false to another, but the core intent is to protect oneself, although this isn't a good way to go about it.
I vote for coming clean with him and letting him know what is going on. You may or may not want to go as far as sharing some of what your inner turmoil is. That is a trust you need to build up over time with him and I dont know how long you've been dating. What I do recommend is going to see a professional counselor. THis will take some time as they need to get to know you and you to gain trust in them before you can begin to work on your issues.
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This is an issue without an easy solution. Neosporin and other similar antibiotic products will heal the cuts faster, but not as fast as you would want. I'm afraid your best course of action is to just hide your legs for awhile.
But this isn't what I would do. I wouldn't keep something like this from him and I don't condone anyone else doing the same. This would cause an issue of trust between you two that you may feel guilty about for a long time. And if you're relationship means something to him, he shouldn't end it because of this.
More importantly, there's a reason you've cut yourself. You're hurt and feel empty. He should be understanding of that and he should be there for you. You and he need to understand that the most important thing here is that you're suffering.
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How about stop cutting? Ever thought of that?
There is NOTHING that could be happening to you that gives you the FUCKING excuse to even think about doing that stupid ass shit. You have a boyfriend, you can type, you have legs, you have the ability to grip objects, you have a place to live, oh and you're FUCKING BREATHING. Already, I know 6 reasons not to feel bad for yourself. Don't be a dumbass. Please. And tell your boyfriend about it. Better to be honest. He would be more mad if you hid it from him.
Good luck.
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