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Date Ideas
19/f
So me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. We've recently just been doing the same thing like sitting around his house watching movies.
I want to start doing more with him. I need some creative ideas. Give me as many as you can think of!
I have a small list but I'd like some more.
I also came across one, which is a spa day at home. I don't know if he'd be up for that, he really hates massages but there is more to a spa day than just that right? If we ever did decide to do that, what things do we do?
Also, how often should we have "dates"? Once a week? Once every two weeks? Every month? I want to make sure we make time for each other and do different things but not run out of ideas. I'm sure there would be plenty that would be fun to do again though.
Thank you for all your answers!
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I think a date once a week is ideal, so you don't miss each other too much. My date recommendations would be going to a park or beach and just talking and hanging out [and kissing (;] bring along a picnic or buy some fish and chips. That you can get to know each other better and you might catch an extra special romantic moment ;) Good luck!! xx hope I helped <3
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Well, there's gonna be things that cost and a list of free things, so I think with what you've mentioned you're looking for ideas for free things.
Can you remember what brought you together in the first place? What was it that attracted each of you to the other. Was it only looks? At first, thats a big one but then you start hanging out to find out more about each other and if you have enough in common to continue to stay together or part ways and look for someone you have more in common with.
After 2 years, you should know him pretty well, and him you. What activities do you have in common? Are you outdoorsy people, do you like gardening? Do you both like hiking, biking, swimming (this time of year theres indoor pools) Do you both enjoy cooking? Maybe take a cooking class together to learn more recipes on your favorite ethnic food. What about dancing? Theres often dance classes, or yoga classes or such offered at the recreation centers where the city pool is. I've taken those kinds of classes and they are not expensive. Do you both like antiques, spending a day wandering through antique shops just for fun is a great way to spend the time. What about things to challenge the mind, doing board games together, jig saw puzzles, what about reading material? My husband is abit dyslexic so I do all the reading but we both get to enjoy a book together and discuss things in it together, especially if it wasnt just a fiction for pleasure but perhaps a study on spirituality or on relationships. Do you have same taste in music?
Here's a point blank question for you. Why do you date? Is it just to have someone for company every once in a while, or are you hoping to find the man who will become your best friend and lover and the two of you remain together long term or for life.
What does your gut feeling tell you about this young man? Is he someone who you and he both could stand being with each other 24/7, thats what it takes for a couple who want to have a happy healthy long term relationship. Yes, everyone will need their personal space at times, but it shouldn't take up the majority of time.
So as to how often you should date, the answer is simple, often enough to find out if he's the right one. If you aren't sure after 2 years, you have either not spent enough time getting to know each other or you do know but aren't ready to admit that he's not the one.
Sitting around watching movies is a fun activity with a loved one. But if thats almost all you are doing, you do not need to interact with each other at all, no conversation, no getting to know what his hopes and dreams are, his goals, what his passions are, who he is at core, his values, morals, beliefs and his personality. You won't learn that just focusing on movies.
You may be focused on work or college and not ready to plunge into a long term relationship. Still, you should be using your time dating to learn what you like and don't like about a person.
Differences may be one is an introvert, ones an extrovert, ones a home buddy, the other likes to get out and do things, one likes to talk alot about anything and everything, the other communicates in few words or not at all, one has a low libido and one has a high sexual libido...the list of differences go on. These few listed already are differences that will put a strain on the relationship and one or the other will not be happy and want to try to change their partner a little or a lot. The more time you spend together, the easier it will be to see if there are differences that would irritate one or the other of you. Even if you find the perfect person for you, don't worry, there will still be plenty of opportunities to learn and to grow in relationship, cus there's always bound to be misunderstandings, a broken promise, etc... opportunities to forgive, to get better at communicating, to control ones temper, to only build up, not tear down.
Only you can answer all these questions. If both your busy schedules is what conflicts with you being able to see each other only once a week or every other week, thats understandable but it sure doesnt help the relationship any. If there is no schedule conflict and its simply your and his choice of how often to see each other, there cant be all that strong of a draw pulling you two together or once a week wouldn't be enough dear.
Even if you have your own homes, if it were me, I'd want to get together more often and the rest of the time be talking lots on the phone. But then I could be wrong, maybe this is all you both want, nothing serious, just a friend as an activity buddy every once in a while.
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Why don't you go to a thater and then after the movie go and have a picnic on the beach and go for a long walk on the piere.
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Hi. From what you have said it seems that he likes movies. Instead of watching them at his house then you should take him to the theater....On the way there or when coming back stop for dinner or dessert...something he would like. Most men like sports..take him to a game, go bowling, go walking, jogging...go out with his friends. The best bet is to do things that he loves at first...he will be more willing this way than if you seem to "force" new ideas on him...Hope it works out...
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