|
Getting back together with someone
Okay so I'm a 16 year old girl and i dated this guy named nick for about 2 months then i broke up with him because i didn't like what some people said about us and i started not wanting to be around him all the time then about 2 months after we broke up i started dating this other guy named jacob and we've been together for 8 months now, but i miss nick alot and i still feel like i really like him and recently ive been thinking about being in a relationship with him again and i think he might still like me back due to our convos, but i also really like jacob and i dont know if i want to break up with him because i enjoy myself when im around him. So i guess my question is should i stay with jacob and forget about nick or should i end it with jacob and try to work things out with nick?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
The reason for dating and being with a guy is to get to know how to better understand males in general, more about a guys personality, beliefs, hopes and dreams and his morals and values at core. What you are trying to learn is how to spot what you do not like and learn to stay clear of it. For example, if a guy was really selfish, you quit dating him, if he trys controlling you all the time, time to break up, he's extremely quiet and it drives you crazy cus you're very verbal and talkative, time to part ways, after some time passes in the relationshp and you get to the sexual stage, and you find, you have a high libido and his is low or vice versa and there is no real sexual spark, then its the wrong person and time to break up. So think hard about what you have with Jacob. Any of this dating experience is learning is to find that long term partner, married or not eventually in life.
Very few people meet their life long mate in high-school but it has happened. What most likely will happen is that you go for 2,3 years and at the same time each of your personalitys grow and change a bit as you mature more. Evenetually one or both of you realize that you don't want to be together for the next 10 years or more and so as friends you part. But without due reason to break up, there is no need to break up. Perhaps the lesson to learn is how to remain commited to a person. It's possible to really truly love more than one person at the same time. But in all practicality to live it out, with all 3 or 4 people aware of and okay with it, is less likely to happen though a few individuals manage it, Polyamory. It's harder than handling all the ins and out of just one relationship so if you haven't mastered a healthy relationship for many years, it's not a good idea to add another to the mix. Most guys get real possive and dont like to share anyways. Neither do the ladys come to think of it. Can see you Jacob in love with two ladys and one is you? You'd be involved in cat fights all the time with the other gal and not want to share.
Trying to bounce back and forth between two guys is not going to work. You could end up losing both. If you have a good thing with Jacob, stay. If it's got some serious issues that you two cant work through and resolves, only then do you leave.
You cannot change guys like you change underwear. They are humans with feeelings too.
]
It's hard when you like two people. My advice would be to not be with either of them until you figure out what you really want.
It's not fair to Jacob.
So take some time being single and figuring out who you want.
Think about how you feel about each one. Who you like more, who you can see yourself happy with.
Breaking up with someone because of what people said about you is dumb. People just talk, hopefully you learned that. As for not wanting to be around him anymore, that was a legit reason to not be with someone.
Anyways, who has the qualities you're looking for in a guy? Besides the shallow ones that they have to be cute, have a nice body, ect. Are they genuinely nice to you and to other people? How do they treat their parents? Do they have a job? Do they work hard in school? Things like that.
]
Hi! Choosing between two people can be hard. Just remember that you don't have to rush the decision. Wait until you know what you think is right before doing anything.
I haven't been in this situation myself. But I think that if you like Jacob and enjoy being with him, you could leave Nick in the past. But if your feelings for Jacob have changed, and you don't enjoy being with him anymore, you can try to work things out with Nick.
I found an article that I think will help you make this decision. I hope it helps.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Good luck!
]
More Questions: |