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I love a girl madly since 2 years and she knows that i like her and we never talk about anything. But i think that she does't like me.
I like her very much, but i never talk her, and also she know about that i like her. But i think that she does't like me because of her no response towards me . But i make eye contact with her many times. And i am madly falling in love with her..... Now what i do? I am from India.
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I don't think you're madly in love with her. You don't really even know her. You just have a huge crush on her.
I suggest you start talking to her. You'll get to know her and then you'll know whether she likes you or not.
If she doesn't like you, then you move on.
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First, theres a difference between being attracted to someone and liking someone. Attraction is based only on what you can observe from a distance, how the person looks and how they carry themselves, how they interact with friends...but thats about it. You really do not yet know enough to know if there's enough in common between you two to have either one or both of you "liking each other". Sometimes one will like a person and the other person doesn't like you in return. Or you both like each other enough to want to learn more about each other so dating starts.
The eye contact stage is just the attraction stage for you and you've been there 2 years. 2 years of any man staring at me isn't enough to make me feel secure that he really has an interest in getting to know me. If your friends have told her friends passing on messages that one of you likes the other, it could be the friends making it up cus they're imagining it due to a wish to play match maker. Other than somebody telling her that you are interested in her, you have done nothing to give her something more solid to go on to determine for herself if you are interested or not. Not every girl is going to make the first move, especially without any signs from you. Do you ever approach her, get close? A person who is interested will have certain body language accompanied by conversation. You walk up to her, stand within arms length away. This means you are close enough to be able to reach out with your hand and touch her shoulder if you wished. If the girl isn't attracted to you, she will step back to create more space. Its subconscious reaction and she wont likely know she did it. You have to be saying something to stand so close for conversation. If you just go up that close and silently stare at her, she'll get spooky vibes, like you're a stalker or there's something mentally wrong with you. If you can talk, you can get a better reading of her level of interest in return. If all goes well, watch how you both act in conversation, do you both tend to slightly lean towards each other when talking, reach out and seem to accidently touch hands, or touch their arm or shoulder in conversation for emphasis, these are ways of flirting that show interest. Mimicking each others body movement, each scratching your nose or moving a hand through your hair can be mimicked.
So hon, you need to do more than stare at her. Lots of girls like a brave bold boy. If he's too scared, she wont have any interest. Think of how it is in nature. Two bucks want the same doe, female deer. The one that wins is the stronger one is the fight. Sometimes, the one male doesnt really fight, he is just scared off so he comes across as weaker.
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If I were you, I'd ask her straight up does she like me. I don't like to continue to like someone when they don't return the feeling. So, ask her and see if she does or not. No matter the answer, you'll know what to do next.
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