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How to get my friend back?
I met this girl about a month ago and we've been friends ever since. In the beginning of the week (It's now Friday), she started ignoring me so I didn't talk to her because I didn't want to start anything. Well, on Wednesday I texted her and she didn't reply so I didn't bother her anymore.
However, it's getting worse. She keeps making all my friends hate me too, and trying to steal my boyfriend... I tried talking to her today but she yelled at me. I don't think we'll have a strong friendship like we did, but I just don't want her to hate me anymore. What should I do? I don't know if she blocked my number or not, so...
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You should try talking to her once more.
Be straight-forward and serious and ask her what the problem is and why has she been that way to you lately.
Once you find out, you decide for yourself what step you take from there.
There may be lots of reasons why she has been the person that she's become lately. Maybe she is two faced and not a genuine friend. In that case, you need to cut her off and leave that person alone because you do not need a person like that in your life.
Maybe you did something to her. Like, talk badly about her behind her back, etc. If you haven't done nothing wrong to her, then she's just being immature and absurd.
And another thing, if your friends are turning against you, you need to speak to them as well and address those things and ask why are they being influenced to act this way towards you on their behalf.
But firstly, approach this girl and tell/ask her why is it that she has become distant and rude. Don't be a subject to being mistreated and putting yourself in a situation where someone is going to be unfair and disgraceful to you.
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Well you should go and talk to her, be honest tell her that "I have no idea whats going on so tell me whats wrong for your sudden change". Go find out at least you will know the reason. The truth is though that you don't want people like that in your life, I mean that's not what a true friend does!! If she yells at you again just move on and find your other friends and explain to them your situation I am sure that with your honesty they will know who is right and who is wrong!! Don't be afraid to face her again she is wrong and sooner or later she will realize it and if she doesn't other people are. Never forget be yourself and show them your true colors!!!!!!!
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Why would you want a friend like that back?
She ignores you. She tries to get your friends against you. She is trying to steal your boyfriend. She yells at you.
How does she make all your friends hate you? If they can turn their back on you that fast, they weren't real friends.
Did you do anything at all to make her not like you? If so, then apologize. That's all you can do. She's behaving really immaturely. She's acting like a child. So after that, don't bother with her. Don't attempt to talk to her. It's not worth it.
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She keeps making all my friends hate me too,
I will start with that statement. Have you ever decided to "Hate" someone because some friends came along and said, 'you should hate Lindsey because she did such and such to me? If you decided to take such an action without knowing if there was any validity to it, what does it say about you? Or more to the point, what business is it to you what transpired between two other people, thats for them to iron out, isn't it? Or let's say you are the one pissed off at someone, so you are the one telling your friends to Hate that person. What does that say about the level of your majority. All this kind of drama simply points out to the fact that likely all people involved are in their teens or below age 25 when our maturity and ability to make good adult decisions finally is complete. Due to lack of maturity, the issue is something that should improve with age.. In the meanwhile, since there is nothing we can do to really influence a person to the point of 'making a change for the better'...I would say for the meanwhile to find some new friends. Even if unknowingly you said or did something that hurt her, her actions she is taking are childish, for not telling you what it was so you could have a chance to apologize. A month isn't a long time to forge a deep solid relationship. All she has proven is that she is a fair weather friend. If she's feeling good, you're her friend, if she's feeling bad, she dumps on you and treats you like sh#t.
I know you must be tired of this treatment. If you are as mature as I think you may be, trust me, there are always some teens who minds have matured a little faster or who are following the guidelines and training of their parents on how to act mature. You will meet them. They don't always stand out in a crowd. But once you find them, they will make much better friends.
Also I wouldn't worry about possibly losing a boyfriend who may end up having no back bone to withstand peer pressure and go along with the crowd. The kind of guy you want at your side is someone who will cover your back when the going gets tough, and stand up for you and encourage you and build you up when no one else will.
Good luck dear.
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