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They always stare..?
Hi I am a fourteen year old and I am in High School. I don't want to sound vain or anything but I think I'm cute. But anyways, boys stare at me but they never talk to me..like NEVER. Why is that? It really kinda makes me think there is something wrong with me, and I've even cried my eyes out because of this. It's not only boys who stare at me but its also girls..some of the girls look at me with hatred in their eyes. You may think this is a stupid question but is there something wrong with me? I always try to be very nice to everyone and give them a smile or ask how there day was. Thanks in advance.(:
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There is nothing wrong with you. You're 14 and you're all going through puberty and some start developing sooner than others. You're pretty, clearly why guys stare. They're just too scared to talk to you. Sometimes I wish they would man up at least talk to the girl they are attracted to, but a lot of just too afraid of rejection.
Girls that look like they have hatred in their eyes, that's their own problem, not yours.
So keep being you, don't change for other people. You're nice, you talk to them, you're fine. People are intimidated by really friendly, nice people. So don't stress or be upset over it.
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Adviceman answered you perfectly. In the meanwhile, if you would like to have conversation with any particular one of the guys who stare at you, You'll have to be brave enough to start it. The boy who doesnt just stare but finds ways to get close to you, stand near, sit next to you, thats body language that shows he isn't just attracted to your looks but has a real interest and may like you. If and when it comes to that time and you can't figure out what to say or how to talk to them, write in again, and we'll do our best to help you.
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Being 14 is a very strange age for everyone boys and girls alike. The biggest problem of this age is puberty. Kids develop at different ages which means they enter puberty at different ages and they develop at different rates once they do enter puberty. Which just happens to hit most people with its biggest effect right around your 14th birthday.
Why the boys stare at you is easy to answer. You are most likely one of the prettiest girls in school. One of the girls that has developed faster than some of the others.
As to why boys stare but do not talk to you. Well that is easy to answer as well. They are to scared to talk to you. They figure you may be too pretty to talk to them or they as is mostly the case just have not figured out yet how to talk to girls. This is why guys to some stupid/silly stunts in front of girls to impress them.
As for the girls the biggest problem is on of jealousy. As I said we all develop at out own rates. Some girls may envy that you have developed better than they have or that you may be prettier than they are. They really should not be jealous for at their age their body is far from being finished developing.
A girls body changes far more radically them a boys body does. A girls body changes from her hairline to her ankles while a boys body changes more internally and needs exercise to define externally.
Just continue to be the person you are. The girls will continue to change and will become more like you are now. The boys will eventually learn how to talk to you and other pretty girls. There is also no reason why you cannot go up to a boy and talk to him. Just don't laugh at him when he steps all over his tongue.
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