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Does guy only want sex?
Female, 20
Hi, so I've been talking to this guy for a long time now. I first added him on facebook because I thought he was cute, he's a couple years younger than me. We've never hung out in person but we've texted and talked on and off for years now. Sometimes he calls late like 2 or 3 in the morning and I don't answer cuz I don't want to send the wrong message, and I haven't really made an effort to hang out during the day I really don't know why. I'm shy. But I wanna know why he continues to pursue me it's been years! We don't have very intimate conversations either its just chit chat. Is he just looking for sex? I'm a single mom so I am super careful with men. Oh and a side note, if I get into a relationship we stop talking but I've noticed he hadn't had a girlfriend the whole time. Well not from what I know. Please help! Thanks!!
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I think there is no question that he is into you. The fact that you dont talk when you are in a relationship should be a big hint.
There could be many reasons he does not have a girlfriend. It's not really something to judge him by, since he could be perfectly normal or a a total screw-up either way.
There is also no way to tell if he is just looking for sex or for something more. My instinct would be that he likes you beyond just the physical since most guys interested only in the latter do not pursue idle chit chat over several years. That being said, this is just pure speculation on my part.
In the end you can't find out more without actually meeting him and taking it to a deeper level. That of course depends on whether you are interested in doing that, so I would begin there if I were you.
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So he talks to you but stops when you find someone. I wonder what he does then. He may be shy, have socialization issues with just women or maybe with guys too. Maybe he just doesnt have many friends. Thats not your problem to solve for him. He needs to figure out on his own. Every guy will think about, imagine sex or hope for sex with a girl who is pretty and nice to them. Some are shy and never make a move on her, others are blatant in telling you they see you as a sexy person and want sex...no guessing what they meant...and yet others realize theres more to a relationship than sex and though there is sexual attraction, which there has to be for a relationship to work well, the guy also cares about getting to know you. IN the process some may fall for you,not bring up or push sex but it will still be on his mind. If I were you, I wouldn't look seriously at anyone younger for either a friend or more.
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You say this guy is a couple of years younger than you. That would make him 17 or 18. At this age I would say you are right to be cautious. Guys this age do not do all of their thinking with the head that sits between their shoulder blades.
If he knows you to be a single mother. Then he may be thinking you might be easier to get into bed then a girl around his own age. He is wrong but as I said the wrong head is doing his thinking for him.
The fact that you do not see him with a girlfriend during you contact with him is also a caution flag. Many times on social media boys will represent themselves as being older than they are. The fact that he has not had a girlfriend during your time of conversation tells me this boy may not actually be 18.
My advice to you is if you wish to stay in contact with over social media that is your choice. I would suggest that it remain just that. Do not agree to meet with him. If you were to consider having sex with him make sure you know his true age. For if he is under age you could be in deep legal trouble.
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