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my friend is dating my ex
my friend Kirstin just called me a few hours ago and said guess what and I said what and then she told me she is dating my ex Roosevelt i am concerned about her dating him because he cheated on me with another boy and several girls and i am afraid that he will do the same to her . should I tell her or just leave it alone ? I don't want her to think i am jealous because she is dating my ex because i am so over him even though I dated him for 7 years on off since high school i am 25 now and she is 27 if that helps .also he talked me into having sex with him by saying if you love me you will even though I didn't want to I loved him at time so I had sex with him should I tell her about this ?
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I would just let her know about what happened. Don't go into details, just give her the straight facts because she's your friend and it's good for her to know.
Pretty much just tell her that you wanted her to know he cheated on you. Don't go into anything else or give any extra detail because that might end up pushing her away or not going to you if something happens between them.
It's never ever good to get in the middle of a relationship or try to give your opinion. I have friends that have told other people that their boyfriend is a bad guy, once they broke up, they never went to those friends because they felt judged. You don't want her to feel bad about being with him and you want her to be able to talk comfortably with you.
So yeah, tell her that he cheated but leave it at that.
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It would be fair, and kind, to tell her that he cheated during your past relationship.
It's not fair, or kind, to drag up those private moments from the two of you deciding to have sex. Even if he was a manipulative jackass, that's an experience that is open to a lot of interpretation and you don't need to expose yourself to her judgement or his on that subject.
Here is the important part about telling her that he cheated in the past: Don't tell her what to do about it. Just give her the information.
For all you know, she might already be aware of how he treated you, and if she does know that, and has excused his behaviour or thinks he'll be different with her, than there is nothing you can do or say.
The only thing you should do, if you want to, is give in the information that this guy has cheated in the past.
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