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I kissed another guy while drunk.
Last night I kissed another two guys while drunk, I feel so guilty, but like my boyfriend never wants to do anything like go out an drink and hang out with other people and stuff like that which I like doing, he's more the type to just chill at home and we barley even have sex anymore or hardly even kiss. I just feel like I have no social life, and the way we never had sex or kiss more than just a peck on the lips it drives me crazy and makes me feel like I'm shit or something? So like while being out drunk for the first time in ages and having so much attention from guys I like kissed one and when he left and I was talking to the other guy an he full understood me we ended up kissing too. I don't even know what to do, I really love my boyfriend and want us to work but I feel like I'm not wanted in that kind of way. :(
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I can see your side of this because you were drunk and you don't do things you normally would do when you're sober. But where I think you are wrong is blaming him for your actions. You can't really justify cheating with "I don't feel wanted". You can say you were drunk, but you can't blame him for what you did.
If you want to fix your relationship, you need to talk to him about this. If there is a reason why you guys aren't very intimate, then ok but try to compromise. Because maybe his excuse is, "I don't feel like it" but you want it and it will help your relationship so try to compromise like once a week you both go out or have a special night together.
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When a person is drunk there are somethings they are not responsible for, such as kissing other men. Alcohol lowers a persons inhibitions allowing them do do things they normally would not do. This I believe is the case here, so I do not believe you should feel to much guilt over kissing someone.
You say you love your boyfriend yet you also say; "I just feel like I have no social life, and the way we never had sex or kiss more than just a peck on the lips." This is somewhat of a contradiction.
when advising others about attraction and commitment one of the things I write about is the hazard of building a relationship of on sexual attraction alone. As I generally write "there comes a time when you wake up one day and find you need to actually talk with each other." "It is at this time you find out that you have or do not have anything in common to support a relationship other than sex and that has wained."
I cannot say you have that type of relationship or you have even reached that point in your relationship. I would need to have a much deeper discussion with you to make that determination. The fact that you went out, got drunk and allowed your inhibitions to come out. Is a signal to me that you need to reevaluate your relationship with your boyfriend.
There are also any number of reason for your boyfriends lack of a sex drive. Starting with stress at work, and ending with a physical problem such as low testosterone. Low "T" as it is called requires a blood test by his doctor. Stress at work is something he needs to discuss with you. Both low "T" and stress at work are manageable if he will allow someone to help him.
If his love for you was strictly a sexual attraction that has since wained then you have a problem. If you two have nothing else in common on which to build a relationship on; then it is best that you find out now and end your relationship amicably. Before you are more hurt then you are now.
Every good relationship needs good communication. It appears you two are not communicating your needs to each other. If you cannot or will not communicate with each other your relationship cannot move past where it is now.
The key to any good relationship; be it a love relationship or a work related relationship, requires good communication between the participants to grow and mature.
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You should feel guilty. You shouldn't need your boyfriend to come out with you, to make sure you don't kiss other guys.
If the relationship isn't working, that's a separate problem. Lots of people manage to get out of bad relationships without cheating, the just dump the person who isn't a good fit for them.
Your boyfriend isn't a good fit for you, but that doesn't mean he deserves to be disrespected and cheated on. End the relationship.
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If you love him then talk to him, Tell him how you would like to spend more time together. Getting drunk is not how you solve a problem.
Perhaps you both aren't compatible, It's hard to say with such little detail. Also, Kissing men while drunk is seeking the wrong type of attention. Talk to him, Work it out or move on
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