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How Can I Talk My Mom Into This?

Question Posted Thursday April 4 2013, 8:51 pm

So I'm 13 and I'm not really comfortable going to school because of the people there (And I can't do anything about it, so please no answers on that). I was thinking homeschooling; And yes, there is someone at home that can homeschool me.

The thing is, I don't know how to tell my parents in a way that they'll understand and say yes. Can you guys please help me?

P.S. Please don't say that I'm "Missing out"... I already thought everything through.

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ErinDanielleSummers answered Monday April 15 2013, 1:41 am:
I'm 14, and homeschooled, and it was very easy to convince my mother. I had a talk with her(although I didn't specify on my reason for wanting to be homeschooled), and I basically said that there are things going on that I need to get away from. I hope you can convince your mother, good luck, dear!

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Drewb13 answered Sunday April 7 2013, 7:14 pm:
Well what are you running from? And I know you're running from something because you feel uncomfortable at school. There are people here who can help you. I've read some really great columns and most of the people on here know what they're talking about and have probably been in your situation before. We just want to help.

I don't know your whole situation but I'm just going to tell you when you run from a situation, that means that you are giving up. If it is bullying, then get an adult or teacher. I said this on another question but I'll say it again: If you tell on someone who is bullying you, IT IS NOT SNITCHING. That's just a word that cowards love to use to scare their victims into silence.

Again I don't know your situation so I'm just taking a shot in the dark. If you let someone know maybe they will be able to help.


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adviceman49 answered Friday April 5 2013, 10:21 am:
I would really like to know why you are uncomfortable going to your school and what the people there are saying or doing to make you feel that way. If you are being bullied or teased there are things the school should be doing to correct this and to keep you safe.

That being said the best way I know to approach anything is straight forward and truthfully. You cannot just go up to mom and say I want to be home schooled. You are going to have to give her reasons why you want this and in great detail.

You will have to sell mom on the idea of home schooling you. You have some idea of some of the things you will be missing and she will raise these as objections. The key to any selling is being prepared for making the sale.

I'm not fooling here if you want this you are going to need to be prepared when you talk to mom. I spent over 30 years in sales very successfully because I prepared for those sales I needed too.

Here is what you need to do. You start by writing down the following:

1. Why you want to be home schooled, include all the details.

2. Think of all possible objections mom will have and come up with answers for all of them. These answers must be detailed and reasonable based in fact.

3. Research the different types of home schooling your school system will or has approved and the cost to your parents. There is a cost involved and it is all carried by your parents as they are taking you out of the free education provided you. Home schooling is the same as sending you to private school. All costs are on the child's parents.

4. The biggest objection I have ever faced and the hardest to overcome is, "I Can't, we can't afford this." Since I do not know your parents financial ability and you may not know their full financial ability this is the one you are going to have the biggest problem overcoming.

Once you are fully prepared to discuss this with mom then you can approach her. By being prepared she will see how much this means to you and hopefully take this into her consideration of what you are asking of her.

Now there is one other solution to your problem in school you may wish to consider. If the problem at your present school is with the other students. You can ask your parents to ask the school to move you to a school where you are not known. This gives you a fresh start and takes you out of the situation at your present school. Just something to think about if mom gives you a flat no to your request for home schooling.

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lightoftruth answered Friday April 5 2013, 2:55 am:
Try to sit down and talk to them about it. Don't beg them and don't act whiny or anything. Try to sit down with them and be mature and state your reasons on why you want to be homeschooled.

There are different ways to be homeschooled. I was homeschooled when I was in 6th and 7th grade. I had computer CDs and I did my schoolwork on the computer and my mom would log onto her account and check it all later.
My brother was homeschooled later and he did one where he was given his work by a teacher and went to the school maybe once or twice a week to have the work graded. He was involved in a type of homeschool where there were other kids who were homeschooled and they went on field trips every so often.
Then there is the typical one where you buy your books and do your work all through paper and all that.

Anyways, I'd bring up these with your parents. Tell them you think you'd do better being homeschooled and that you'd be willing to work very hard because honestly, being homeschooled is much harder than going to a normal school.
I hated being homeschooled but it was because I felt like I didn't try very hard and I didn't get to be with friends much.

If they don't agree, there isn't much you can do but push through it.
Good luck.

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sistapinkle answered Friday April 5 2013, 2:00 am:
Start putting make up on you face to look like you got beat up so you can tell them people at school are bullying you and you would like to be home schooled.

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