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Is my brother in law racist? Was he wrong for saying this?
Long story short, 2 of my nephews got into a small fight with some other kids. I don't know who started it, but my brother in law was mad. He was so mad that he said: "Next time that n*qqer b**ch hits you, you hit them back." My mom and some other ppl heard him. His wife (my sister) is black, his sons are half black and his 2 step sons are black. He hates to be around my family, but he's married to my sister. He told my mom to excuse his language and that what he said didn't matter because the family is black except him. Wasn't he wrong for saying that?
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Yes. It was wrong.
He may have honestly, in his heart, had no racist intentions at all. It doesn't matter. That isn't language you use with family, or with children. It's inherently bigoted and hateful.
Don't worry too much about judging his intentions or labelling his behaviour as 'racist'. People tend to get their backs up to an extreme degree if you call them racist and stop listening. Just make it clear that whether he thinks that word is racist or not, it's a word that is not to be used in your company or around children. It's not respectful and it wont be accepted.
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Yes.
What he said was very rude and offensive.
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