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im 14 he is 20
Hey. So in 14F and I like a 20 year old* he is really nice. I want to know if he likes me 2? We were at the mall 2day. And the hole yime he sits close 2 me and so on* is it wrong 2 like hom? And do he like me? ----> ME
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what does this 20 year old get out of being with you? think about it, you are still in school this is wrong!!!
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This is legally and morally unacceptable.
This man is legally an adult who by law could be arrested for dating a 14 year old. You are a minor and by law are not legally able to even consent to sex. Meaning, this man could be charged for rape and forced to register as a sex offender.
You see, When someone who is 20 years old likes a 14 year old there is something very wrong there. Think about it... he is to old for you and what he is doing is wrong.
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It is not a case of him liking you or you liking him. It is legally wrong for the two of you to be together even in the way you describe. I know of no state where the age of consent is 14 so even though you two are just sitting together. The fact that he is not a blood relative of yours puts him in danger of being arrested for statutory rape.
Then there is the fact of the 6 year difference in age to begin with. What logical reason would a man of 20 have for wanting to be with or date a 14 year old? There is none. This man could very likely be a sexual predator or already a sex offender. You could be in real physical danger.
My advice is to terminate this friendship immediately and to tell your parents about it. Especially if he approached you first.
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It's not wrong to like him, but you can't date, and both of you should know that. He's too much older than you. It's too risky emotionally and physically for you, and depending on what you do and where you live, it could get him charged with a crime and labeled a sex offender.
And you shouldn't put yourself, or him, in a situation that could ruin his life like that.
Besides the legal reasons you can't date him, there is the cold fact that a guy who is 20 years old but feels an 14 year old has all the qualities he wants in a girlfriend is probably not a very stable and well adjusted person.
Age differences don’t mean very much at all when two people are in similar places in life, like when they are both still in school or both out in the workforce... But at 14 and 20 your worlds are completely different. Or at least, they should be. Your goals and desires from a relationship should be pretty different too. If he, at 20, has the kind of wishes and expectations for his relationships that are compatible with yours, that doesn’t say positive things about him…
That has nothing to with you.
You could be brilliant.
You could be Aphrodite herself.
You could be the most wonderful girl he has ever met.
You'd still be a 14 year old, and a 20 year old guy who seems a viable partner in a teenager, is someone I would have serious concerns about.
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