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I am friendless, lonely and depressed.
Well, I feel like I have no real friends. I do have this one friend ''fernanda'', we go out and have fun and laugh and stuff, but that's about it. I have tons of friends on facebook, but I don't know most of them in person, all I see are pictures of them having a good time together and just...happy. Something I haven't been for a very long time, see, I'm very insecure...sometimes I feel like I'm just not worth it, and well my story is much longer than what most of you would be willing to read, so let me just cut to the chase and ask you guys...what should I do? I'm not even sure what I'm asking here, it's christmas and I'm looking at all these pictures on facebook of people having fun with their friends, and I'm here at home, nobody called me, nobody cares about me...sometimes I feel jealous of these people, I wish I could be with them and have what they have...happiness, fun, friends... I think I'm a pathetic loser...sometimes I think I don't deserve love, or friends, or any of that for some reason, or maybe my personality just sucks. I'm interested in things like philosophy, history, languages and all that...I just can never find someone to talk with me about that, but at this point I don't care...I just wish I had friends. What should I do? I feel very sad and often cry a lot cuz I think my teenage is passing by and I'm not enjoying it...life is passing by and I can't move on because I feel like a part of it is missing, like something I never had...and maybe never will.
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I was like this when I was younger, and still kind of am. I'm very anti-social and shy. I met a boy I really liked when I was about 14, and I'm 17 and we're dating now. He kind of helped me get out of the awkward stage. Many people go through an antisocial/awkward stage, but you'll get over it, good luck. (:
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be a friend of mine. i need a true friend. send me a mail here inspirable.mankind@gmail.com. please. please.
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Hey there buddy.. i am just like you.. have tons of friends and followers on facebook but a loner in real life without true friends.. My bff ditched me some months back.. I am 18 n going through a horrid time az well.. Dont worry eventually u'r gonna find some1.. or well m dere for ya :)
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No matter how bad you feel, remember hurting yourself is never the answer. Furthermore if you truly want to change the way you feel about yourself only you can cause that change to happen. Go out, no matter if your alone, or with someone, it may feel awkward at first but you cant change your current situation unless you do something differently. Try going to a Church, talk to a minister, or if your not religious go vulunteer at a food bank or somewhere else, helping others will help you in the process. My last bit of advice is that, no matter how alone or unhappy you are, there are others struggling just like you. You are never alone in this world, there are people who want to change in the same ways you want to, there is some one there for you who wants help just as much as you do.
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What i'm going to convey may or may not help you but i'll try my best . Firstly , you need to deal with the feeling of insecurity and your true personality . When you're stating something regarding who you are , make sure that there're evidences supporting what you've stated . You might feel worthiless , but is it 100 % true ? Deal with your battles within , and make sure you're controlling your emotions because perceptions conquer thoughts , and thoughts reign the actions . You're 19 , and you still have a lot of chances to have friends arounds you , supporting your life and they may appear from any walks of life but sometimes , to have one or more friends around you , it needs you to be the great friend first . For instance , you could use Facebook and give words of kindness when people need it , and it doesn't matter who they are as long as you've respect . If you do it often , maybe some of your Facebook friends will chat with you , and then you can use the chance you possess to be closer to them , and understand their stories and make friends . Still , don't compare yourself to people . In this world , all men are made equal , and no matter how happy people may seem , they still have their own stories to tell , and maybe very , very painful ones . You too , deserve to be happy just the way you are ! You're feeling lonely not because of the fact that you're friendless , but it's because you're lacking the presence of someone to share almost anything with including your interests , tears , laughter and so on . Don't worry , you'll meet that someone believe me but you need patience as it takes time . Think of the brightside . Your passion towards philosophy , languages and so on is what makes you special , different from others ! Be independent for now , and try being with your family more or be closer with your religion or , consume your time doing the things you love . Gain strength and be motivated . You are the cure to your depression , believe me and , live your life to the fullest . Make a bucketlist and complete yourself . Please , stop crying now :) look around you . Stop crying , listen to inspirational songs and be friendly towards everyone . Just as an additional info , you could email me just about anything . I'd be happy to help you out . Smile now :))
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I know where you're coming from regarding not feeling like you deserve other people's love and attention. I feel the same way and am pretty insecure myself. What could help is reaching out to other people and inviting them to do things with you. Maybe they are feeling lonely, too, but are too afraid to reach out? I remember this one time, I saw a lady all dressed up and my mom and I got into a conversation with her. She mentioned that she was going out dancing and didn't care that she had no one to go with. She just wanted to have fun anyways. I thought that was really cool. If there is something you want to do like see a movie, go shopping, or try a new restaurant, do it regardless of if you're by yourself or not. You may meet some new people along the way.
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