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i dont know if me and him are just friends or more.
hi:) ive been txting and hanging out with this boy and i cant figure out where we are in our relationship nd ive asked him before and he just said lets hangout some more an well see but our relationship has gotten a lot deeper now and i really like him a lot and i dont know what to think. if anyone has any advice to give its greatly apprciated...thanks :)
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Generally speaking (50% of the cases plus one), when a guy spends a lot of time on a girl it means he wants to get with her. Guys are very target/goal directed and so will spend time only on that target/goal to the exclusion of others (if other viable targets/goals exist).
But what can you learn from this?
1. You're learning what it is like to be in the "friend zone." It sucks, doesn't it? You are maybe feeling kinda strung along. So now you're learning that sucks and you want to give a guy who likes you an immediate clarification of the status of your relationship rather than just using him to make yourself feel good.
2. He may just be cautious and is taking his time to ensure that you really are for him.
3. He may not be ready for a real relationship yet and needs time to sort himself out about dealing with the opposite sex.
4. He could just be shy and a little nervous about how to proceed without turning you off. You can solve this just by making a move on him yourself. If he says he just wants to be friends, you will learn how guys feel when they get rejected, an experience that though painful, will further your understanding of how the sexes interact. If he accepts your overture, well, touchdown!
My advice: learn that being in the "friend zone" sucks and take my advice under number one above; two, relax, don't limit your interests to just the one guy and maybe if he sees you being courted by other guys it will provoke him to get off his butt and make some kind of overt move on you. Do not ask him a typically vague and emotionally loaded question like, "so where is this relationship going?" Be a big girl and tell him what you want and if he isn't into it you can move on.
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He needed time to evaluate whether you were the one or not. It was him sizing you up all this time by hanging out in a friend capacity. Your relationship may have gotten better and stronger but he's still unsure as are you what we have here--friendship or more.
I think it's pretty reasonable to go to him and say "look I'm really confused and my emotions are tangled in this are we just friends or are we more than that?" and see where you stand with him because you deserve to know. Don't let him away with an answer that isn't definitive either. No problem with a girl or even a guy if role reversed confronting someone like this. Not fair he's left you dangling for so long.
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Hi! Well, it sort of depends on when you asked him where you guys are. If it was just a few days ago, wait a little while. If it was a long time ago, ask him again.
If his answer is the same, tell him that you're confused and you need to know.
Good luck and take care! :)
Bella xoxo
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Sounds like he is taking it a step at a time. If your relationship has got stronger then just ask him. You do not want him leading you on or anything.
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