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Is it okay for my dad to make me kiss his lips (13yr old female)
I am a 13yr old female and never liked to kiss my dads lips. It's isn't a full out make out session but just a really long pucker up and get your face smushed thing. I turn my head so he gets the memo to kiss my check but then he gets really mad at me. I turn to leave and I'm yelled at until I come back. He then says "what the hell is wrong with you?!?" And is ticked off for the rest of the day. My mom and sister are then mad at me too because I can't suck it up. My dad doesn't kiss my sister on the mouth though! He will grab me by my arms and kiss me really hard and won't let me leave! Then sometimes he will kiss my neck and my shoulder and collarbone which makes me really uncomfy. Is this ok?
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For your age, it sounds very creepy. I dont know how your dad is, but I would tell him that you're not a little girl anymore. I mean, you will always be his #1 girl..but you gotta let your dad know that you dont like that.
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It was probably cute when you were three to kiss your father in this manner. At 13 it is a step and half removed from incest or incestuous relations.
What to do about this? Since you mom seems to be going along with this there is only a few things you can do. If there is an Aunt or Uncle you are close with or your grandparents you can speak to one of them and ask them to have a talk with your father to tell him how inappropriate it is for him to be kissing you in this manner. Also that his kissing you in this manner makes you feel uncomfortable.
If you cannot appeal to a close family memeber than you should talk to a trusted teacher or your school principal. They will follow rules in place to protect you from what is in reality sexual abuse.
Now I know what your thinking child services will remove you from your home. That is the last thing they want to do. What they will do is talk to dad and mom and explain this is inappropriate behavior for dad and that you are so uncomfortable that you sought the help of school officials. They will assign you a case worker who will check on you to make sure dad has stopped their behavior and is treating you and the rest of the family well. They may also send him to parenting classes.
The objective of child welfare is to see to the safety of children. This does not mean they will always remove the children from their home. Doing that is a worst case option.
I'm sure your dad does not see his kissing you in this manner as sexual abuse or incest. I'm just as sure once a reasonable adult informs him how uncomfortable this his actions make you and that his actions can be perceived in the manner I said. He will then see for himself and be reasonable and stop treating you in this manner.
So either seek out a trusted relative, teacher or school principal and ask for help.
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honestly. This is not an acceptable way between father and daughter. It is very inappropriate. If it makes you feel uncomfortable you must say so. This may be a mind set for him. but only your partner aka boyfriend/girlfriend should use this affection. Not a father or mother unto a child. If you are to scared to talk to your dad or mom I would suggest talking to the Child's help line. It is completely anonymous and they are trusted people who will be able to help you more.
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There is a phone number on the top of this website,.
As well there are tons of articles and helpful items on the website as well.
Goodluck!
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They think it's okay and a father daughter innocent thing. However, it's bloody creepy to this guy at least he's kissing your neck, shoulders, collar. That isn't right. He shouldn't do that. If it makes you uncomfortable tell people he does it and let him know you aren't little anymore and kisses like that on the lips aren't appropriate. It has nothing to do with love. Maybe he just doesn't see how this creeps you out and someone tactfully needs to let him know how it bothers you and others will perceive it.
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