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fiendship over
A very good friend of mine we will cal her. Ann helped me in an emergency financially. At first she denied me the money hut I got very upset with her and hung up on her she then called me back. Came picked me up gave me the money and said she took it from her husband account that she was limted to and she would deal with him later and gave mea hug. After that I texted her and she wouldn't anser me. I finaaly had her money to pay back and texted her and she called and said our friendship was over that ivlied about. The emergency and I caused problems between her and her husband. 27 years of friendship. I didn't lie and I can't make someone give me money. Don't undersrand controling husband. Am very sad
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You acted like a controlling friend.
True, you didn't 'make' her give you the money, you just threw a temper tantrum until she did.
You didn't force her to do it, you just punished her and blackmailed her emotionally until she did.
When you manipulated her in that way, YOU ended the friendship. Friends don't do that to one another. Friends respect their friends when they say 'no'.
If you care for her, let her focus on her marriage. It's understandable that she and her husband have decided that you are not welcome in their lives right now. Maybe he is controlling, but nothing you've said here proves it. She betrayed him and made a mistake, not talking to you anymore is a valid part of trying to fix that mistake.
Pay her back, leave her alone, and don't bully your friends into loaning you money.
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Why did you get angry with her when she turned you down? Why was it her fault that you needed money? No, you didn't "make" her give you money... you just applied emotional blackmail and acted petulant until she coughed it up.
Ann made a mistake, to be sure. She should have discussed the matter with her husband, since it was money that was theirs jointly, not just Ann's. She didn't clear it with him, and she has herself to blame for that. But don't pretend that you had nothing to do with the problems between her and her husband. You pressured her into loaning you money, and you knew that it would cause a problem with her husband, but you were willing to let her take the heat for it. Those are not the actions of a good friend, and that is likely why she has chosen to terminate that relationship with you.
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