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13 and had sex with alot of guys
Ok so I'm 13 and I have a boyfriend and I had to have sex with random guys in front of him,my boyfriend took videos and stuff and now I must do it everyweek with atleast 5 guys I think I'm pregnant though(no period,nasias,tired ect...)And I'm scared that I am because my mom and dad will kill me and propbably disown me! Please help!
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Your parents won't be happy but they will not disown their child. You need to come clean and let them know you made a huge mistake getting sexually active and what this boy did with extortion and blackmail and other people. Tell them it's documented on film.
They can have these people charged and properly dealt with legally and or otherwise and get you removed from a horrible situation. With pregnancy tell your parents your suspicion and see a doctor about it. They will know how to help you. You have to TELL them as you know this situation is wrong and won't be able to escape it otherwise.
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You need to find someone else who respects you. You are way too young to be doing anything like that and it is ILLEGAL and you will go to jail if caught as well as him and these other guys. If you are pregnant that is something you are obligated to tell your parents about there is no way to hide it. your parents will be mad but you need to explain all this to them and let them make a decision, you are too young to do this on your own. I know it's scary but if you think you are mature enough to have sex you are mature enough to face the result of your actions.
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Okay, I'm really not sure why everyone is judging you so hard. You're not a bad person, you're not stupid. You've made some bad choices, but you are the victim here. Don't feel bad about yourself because of what people are saying. You are no less a person because of your past actions. The last thing you need right now is slut shaming.
What you've been dealing with is sexual abuse. Your boyfriend doesn't love you if he's doing this to you. He certainly doesn't respect you. Neither do those other boys. You need help to get out of this.
The best people you can talk to are your parents. They love you more than anyone in the world, and while they may be incredibly upset, chances are they will do whatever they possibly can to help you. It might look like anger at first, but often what appears to be anger is really just fear.
With your parents' help you can find out if you're pregnant and find out what your options are. You should also be screened for STIs. Even if you used condoms, they're not 100% effective in prevention. Your parents can also help you with the next step.
You're going to have to go to the police. Those videos and pictures of you are child pornography. It's incredibly illegal to possess, distribute and produce it. Your boyfriend is breaking the law in doing this. In fact, all the boys involved might be, depending on where you live and what the age of consent is.
Before you say "I love him and don't want to get him in trouble" keep in mind that you have to live with this for the rest of your life. It's going to impact all of your future relationships and your attitude towards sex. Also, who knows where those pictures and videos have ended up? He could be selling them to grown men around the world. You will never know where they are, and you'll have to live with that forever. If you have to pay for his actions, why shouldn't he?
I strongly suggest that you seek counselling. Whether you're pregnant or not, you've been through some traumatizing stuff. A counselor can help you sort through the emotions involved and get you through to the other side.
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You have been very foolish to allow this to happen to you. I could go all psychological on you and give you reasons as to why you have allowed this to happen, I won't. If you are pregnant what is done is done.
Kids that are 13 years old should not be having sex for this reason; you are to immature to be aware of the consequences of what you are doing. In your case you are allowing a boy to sexually abuse you. I have reason to believe this boy and the others that have been using and abusing you are much older than you. They are in fact criminals by the fact that they are abusing you sexually.
Your parents are not going to kill you. If you are pregnant this is going to be a wake up call to them and should be to you that there is a problem in the relationship between you and them. This is the psychology of the why you have allowed this to happen. You were looking for something from the boys you are not getting at home.
Fact is you are to young to do anything about your pregnancy and you will not be able to hide it for ever. Eventually your parents will learn of it. It is better that they learn now so that they can deal with it properly rather than later when it could cause you and the baby harm.
If you are that afraid of your parents then seek help at school. Talk with a trusted teacher, your school principal or your guidance counselor. They can help you find ways to notify your parents in an atmosphere where they will have to remain civil. This will give them time to accept what has happened and listen to the others who will offer suggestions how to deal with your being pregnant.
The unfortunate part of this other than you being pregnant is that you are to young to have any legal say in what is done. Whatever your parents decide is best is what you will need to do.
As for the boys. As I said they are CRIMINALS. THEY SEXUALLY ABUSED YOU. THEY DESERVE TO BE PUNISHED. By this I mean their abuse needs to be reported to the police. By law you are to young to consent to any form of sex, thats number one. Your boyfriend forcing you have sex with others boys in front of him is sexual abuse even if you consented.
From what you have written it does not sound like you consented, "I had to have sex with random guys in front of him,my boyfriend took videos and stuff and now I must do it every week with at least 5 guys." This is sexual abuse by him and rape by the boys who used you.
After you have talked with someone to help you tell your parents. Have them also suggest family counseling for you and your parents. There is a reason you allowed this to happen to you. I don't have the education to know exactly why and I would have to know you better to get to the reason. A good therapist will get to the reason and help you and your parents fix what is wrong in your relationship with them.
You do not need to have sex with boys to feel loved, which is the why I come up with. Sex is for adults that feel love for one another not to feel love.
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Why are you allowing your boyfriend to do this to you is the real problem here. You obviously must not have any sort of love for yourself or you would seek help and see this is wrong and also put him in jail. Forget your parents disowning you, get some self worth.
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I'm gonna be blunt and straight forward. If you were my child I'd knock you upside the head. You are 13 years old what the heck do you think you're doing. Sex is an adult game. It isn't for children and that's what you are. You should be worried about school and getting through that. You don't want to be a drop out in middle/highschool. You do NOT have to have sex to be with someone. That's rediculous. You need to have more respect for yourself. Just because you tell a guy no, doesn't make you a prude. Your body is still growing and can't handle the sex that you're putting it through. It's very unhealthy. I had my daughter when I was 16 years old, and I've regretted not waiting ever since.
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