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Flirting With my 6th Grade Teacher (gay)
Hi, Im Blake, im 12 years old and i just moved from London to America. When I first got to school my teacher Mr.Rein always smile at me and wink at me.Like a when we read our books, there he is staring at me winking and I wink back. He always cares about me a lot. One time I was really sad and started crying but then Mr.Rein took me out to the hallway, then he made me sit on his lap and gave me a kiss on the forehead. I gave him a big hug then he said everything is all right and ill be here for you.I really like him and he really likes me. Every day when we leave he givs me a hug. I want to know if this is ok because i have feelings for him. Please reply
-Blake
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It is not okay for your teacher to do that to you. Go tell your parent or guardian about this or your teacher is going to jail.
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First of all forget about the Gay thing. You're too young to know about your own sexuality to know if your gay. To think your teacher is gay for what he is doing could be a misinterpretation of his actions. A showing of affection or comfort to someone does not mean that person is gay.
Now as to your teachers action in showing comfort or affection to you. It could be that he feels you need some extra comfort or attention as you are new to this country and feeling lost and lonely. IF this is the case then his intentions are honorable but a little misguided as they could get him in trouble if misinterpreted.
It is okay for a teacher to comfort you given the circumstances. If his comforting makes you uncomfortable then it is not okay; then you must tell your parents.
Many years ago it was quite alright for a teacher to hug his or her students especially at dismissal time. Today unfortunately a hug can be misinterpreted. I would suggest you talk with your parents to let them know what this teacher is doing and let them decide if it is okay. Just remember you are doing nothing wrong. It is okay to like a teacher and even have a crush on a teacher. It can be okay for a teacher to comfort you if there is reason too.
By telling your parents what is happening in school each day. It is not that they are being nosy it allows them to know that you are safe and that the school is doing what they are being paid for. So at dinner time you should tell them everything that goes on at school including what happens between you and this teacher. This way they can decide if it is appropriate or not and meet with him if they feel the need to.
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School teacher crushes are totally cool, but when an adult is kissing (even on the forehead) and hugging on a kid as young as yourself, there is something wrong here. Talk to an adult. A parent or such. Whether you really like him or not, it's wrong.
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It's okay for you to have a crush. Goodness knows I had enough crushes on my teachers when I was growing up!
That said, your teacher is really toeing the line when it comes to contact with you. His actions could be interpreted as an overly friendly teacher looking out for a student who is new to the country, or it could be something more. Either way, it's not really appropriate.
I have had a professor of mine hug me when I was having a really bad day, but daily hugs are past the limit. You should tell an adult (your parents or principal) exactly what's happened. I know you like your teacher and don't want to get him in trouble, but he's behaving inappropriately.
If you feel comfortable saying no to the hugs, go ahead. It's great to have a special relationship with a teacher, but physical boundaries really shouldn't be crossed.
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