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My Dad... wanted to borrow a CD and I told him no.
My dad seems to always try to snoop through my CDs and I don't like it and I try to stop him. Then one night, he wanted to borrow my Maroon 5 CD, and I wouldn't let him, so he said I can't go to any Maroon 5 concerts. Then he calls me ungrateful child. What should I do? Is he serious?
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wt the heck let him takes wt everhe wants .He's your dad
if you don't have a dad then from where you have a money to buy cds
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I liked Razhi's answer. She as the saying goes hit the button right on the head.
Now what can you do about this situation? Fact is both you and your dad are wrong. In this case he tried to do the right thing and asked to borrow it and you were rude to say no. In your writing to us you made it sound as if you said so out of spite if for no other reason.
Parents do have a right to go through their children's things. TO monitor what music they are listening to, what they are reading and most importantly to see if they are hiding any drugs. This is part of being a responsible parent.
I'm not saying this is why your father went through or goes through your CDs. I'm just saying this is one reason why he would.
My advice would be to go to your dad and apologize. Say whatever you feel like but acknowledge you were wrong and maybe being vengeful or ungrateful and you realize this now.
I'm sure your dad will appreciate this apology and most likely modify any punishment he gave you. This will also open the door to communicate with him your desire for more privacy. He then can tell you if he feels the need to monitor your music, reading and on-line viewing and why.
If going through your CDs was as much to see if you had any he wanted to listen to as well as monitoring what you are listening too. Then I can't say he is wrong for doing so as he is being a responsible parent. Something that later in life you will thank him for.
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I can get not liking your dad going through your things, but when he does the right thing and asks first, rather than snoops through your stuff, that's your chance to be gracious and reward polite behaviour.
Here is an unfair, but very true thing about the universe:
When kids and teens are rude to their parents, they tend to get punished,
However, there is no law against being rude to your kids or teens. You can't beat your kids, but you can be as rude as you like.
Was your dad's response extreme? Sure. But, hey - you started it. Often when you are nasty to someone out of spite, you get nastiness right back, and since you are the kid and he's the parent - he can be nastier than you can be. He might be petty, rude and wrong to ban you from concerts (and maybe he isn't serious either), but there is nothing you can do about that. You can withhold your CD from him, and he can withhold pretty much everything but food from you.
The moral of the story is... When you can afford to be polite and generous, do it.
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Woah, this must be the smallest problem I've seen on here before!
Seriously?
Fistly, I don't see the big deal with him looking through your CD's if he has the intention of giving it back? I love Maroon 5 but even I wouldn't spend 24 hours a day listening to them, so why not, when your busy, let him listen?
Also, if he bought the CD's then it should be fine, obviously I don't know you, but if not then think how much he may have done/bought for you in the past.
Also you can go to concerts when you're older? Maroon five are still going strong and if you ask me you're lucky if you can afford them at a young age anyway.
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I know it may be hard to see it, but you are not being fair. Why can't he borrow your CD? Is it your only one? Will you die without it?
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