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I hate my boyfriend... he has cheated on me many times, even when I was pregnant, but I love him and now we have a baby together.
Me and my boyfriend have been back together for 2 months now. After the birth of our child he broke up with me because I wanted to go to a concert event. Long story short he was with a girl he cheated on me with a year earlier. I wasn't aware how serious it was... But anyways. I'm still really not over it. He cheated on me while I was pregnant which I didn't know. He cheated on me 3 times before I ever got pregnant. In addition to being with the girl he cheated on me with he had sex with 2 other girls he let disrespect me on twitter. Also he lets his ex girlfriend from where he used to live disrespect me on twitter and other way. We have a child together so that's why we are still even together. We basically stay together he depends on me to get to school. I love him but I just hate him so much. I'm always looking at that girls twitter I just can't get thoughts about him and other girls out of my head. I asked him to tell me everything and it just makes me so much more mad.
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There are really two options, the way I see it.
If you feel like giving him another chance, you could put him on probation, where if he steps out of line even once he's gone. Now, he has to know this, and he has to know that you're serious about it. Keep in mind that this guy has cheated on you many times with no real consequences. He's been having his cake and eating it too. If you are going to put your foot down, you really have to mean it. That means that if you say you're going to pack his bags and kick him out of the house the moment you see anything slightly fishy, you do just that.
Otherwise, and this is the option I probably would take, you can just leave his sorry ass now. This guy must be a master apologizer by now. He has already been given more chances than he should have been to prove himself, and he's saying that sex with random bimbos is more important than a happy life with you and your child. You will always have to have some sort of relationship for your child's sake, but it's really not the worst thing for a kid to grow up with a split family. Which would you prefer: your child growing up with two families, or your child growing up seeing their mother being disrespected and abused on a regular basis? You will be a better parent if you're not miserable and downtrodden. And yes, he depends on you, so he shouldn't be so stupid as to mess that situation up. Make him find his own way. Maybe the random skanks can help him out. It's not your problem, but your happiness is.
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You need to get out of that relationship as soon as possible! He's disrespecting you. I know he said that he'll change and won't hurt you again but I believe that this isn't the first time that he has promised you those things, he has cheated on you for several times and let those girls hurt you. I understand that you are staying with him because you have a child together, but you have to realize that as your baby grow up the environment that you are in right now isn't healthy for him. You will find someone else who will treat you with respect and love you. You just have to be brave and move on.
“I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.”
― Haruki Murakami, South of the Border, West of the Sun
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I'd say honestly wait it out. If he does it again dump his ass hard your kid doesn't need to realize that they should not cheat in a relationship. Only if he does it again and delete twitter or try checking it less often because you can't live for now if your always living in the past.
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