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hi im bi how do i tell my parents
hello internet,im a 13 year old girl and im bisexual.yes im sure,and im proud.ive always liked girls,but guys are attractive to me as well.my parents are divorced,and my mom is bisexual as well but never really dates or has sex with women.my dads a racist anti-gay kinda guy.only 2 people know,by bff who is also bi,and my friend who ive known forever.do not want to come out for a while.but my mom has obviusly thought i am gay before,and in a way i am.shes had her suspicians,and vervbalized them to mke in a delicate manner,and now i dont know if i should tell her or what soon.how can i bring this up?shes accepting as anyone i know,but still hard to talk to.i live in an anti gay town where it is NOT acceptable whatsoever.how should i bring this up?how can i ask anyone out if i love both sexes?how akward can i get??????
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I came out as Bi when I was 14. But now that I am 17 I am starting to think that I am only bicurious. So while I agree that you should wait until you are older and have gone through more experiences, both sexual and emotional, before you permanently label yourself, I also think that if your mother is accepting then you should talk to her about your feelings. Try telling her you have something important to say, getting her to sit down alone with you and then just tell her how you feel. as for your dad I would hold off on that until you have a girlfriend. My reasoning for that is if there is no proof besides your word, then you are most likely just going to get laughed at and hurt. I hope this helps <3
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Sweetheart don't label yourself at such an early age it will only hurt you , physically as well as mentally.
You are only 13 you are just now becoming sexually aware of yourself and your sexual feelings. It is normal at your age to feel affection for both sexes. You are experiencing puberty at its fullest at this time. With all new hormones raging in you. Your body does not know how to control or even interpret some of the signals it is getting being caused by these hormones. This is all part of being 13 and your teenage years.
As you get older you will gain control over your hormones. You may be bi or even gay. There is nothing wrong with that. What the problem is to come out and declare yourself without ever having allowed yourself to actually engage in the activity is wrong and hurtful to you. It is harmful because your friends will not understand and you can be come the subject of ridicule or worse physical harm.
You are way to young to engage in any sort of physical sexual activity. So to actually try and find out just what your sexual preference and true sexuality is. Is something that needs to wait a few years. Both you and your body need to do a lot more maturing before you engage in actual sex.
Your teenage years are the time where you find out who you are. Who you are as a person and who you are sexually. There is a road map so to speak that one follows to get to adulthood and you are trying to find a short cut. Don't do this as you are doing yourself a great disservice. Don't try to grow up before your time. Your teenage years are a time for fun and exploration, this includes finding yourself. Taking a short cut is way to important for your future life to miss out on this time.
My advice is relax and give yourself time to be a teenager. At all costs avoid labels as they tend to stick and be harmful
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Well, if you are too nervous to bring it up yourself, wait until your mother brings it up again and just tell her that you are interested in both genders. It's truly nothing to be afraid or ashamed of. Especially now a days since it seems that everyone is bisexual or bi-curious. I feel that it is a good thing to explore possibilities, because who knows, perhaps in the future you may end up with a preference of a certain gender over another. If she doesn't bring it up again, then take your time. There's no rush to tell her about your preferences/orientation. Regardless of what you tell her, she'll still love you, since you are her baby. You'll tell her when you are ready.
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