Member Since: November 15, 2012
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Last Update: November 15, 2012
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hello internet,im a 13 year old girl and im bisexual.yes im sure,and im proud.ive always liked girls,but guys are attractive to me as well.my parents are divorced,and my mom is bisexual as well but never really dates or has sex with women.my dads a racist anti-gay kinda guy.only 2 people know,by bff who is also bi,and my friend who ive known forever.do not want to come out for a while.but my mom has obviusly thought i am gay before,and in a way i am.shes had her suspicians,and vervbalized them to mke in a delicate manner,and now i dont know if i should tell her or what soon.how can i bring this up?shes accepting as anyone i know,but still hard to talk to.i live in an anti gay town where it is NOT acceptable whatsoever.how should i bring this up?how can i ask anyone out if i love both sexes?how akward can i get?????? (link)
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I came out as Bi when I was 14. But now that I am 17 I am starting to think that I am only bicurious. So while I agree that you should wait until you are older and have gone through more experiences, both sexual and emotional, before you permanently label yourself, I also think that if your mother is accepting then you should talk to her about your feelings. Try telling her you have something important to say, getting her to sit down alone with you and then just tell her how you feel. as for your dad I would hold off on that until you have a girlfriend. My reasoning for that is if there is no proof besides your word, then you are most likely just going to get laughed at and hurt. I hope this helps
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My mom is getting a divorce, and I need advice on how to cope with it. I am sad but I keep it to myself because if I tell my mom she will give me a lecture instead of advice. Anyone have advice. Thanks if you do. If you don't that's fine. (link)
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My parents go divorced when I was 12. It took me a while but I realized that they were happier and I was happier once it happened. If you don't think you can talk to your mom, what about your dad? Close friends or family can also help, possibly a slightly older aunt or cousin? Also remember that your parents are also going to be sad, so try to be there for them as well
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Im crying right now so Im kinda in a fragile state of mind. So I try all the time in school and i feel like no one else truly understands. Publically people think im so nice when I'm not. They don't know me really. When I get home I want time to myself. I came home at 6 today and I hadn't eaten at all. I go in my room and as soon as I open my mouth to eat, my mom yells my name. she does this VERY frequently. So I yell "okaaaay!" She came up to my room and I basically said "I just got home im tired, I havent ate, leave me alone" (In a yelling complaining voice) To make a long story short, my mom thinks im like my oldest sister and im gonna turn into this bad teen and hit her and all that stuff. Im my own person, I skipped lunch just to do homework at the library, I stayed after for algebra tutorials, and I try. When I get home im always yelled and hit at. My attitude can be bad but so is my mothers. She never lets me go over a friends house, EVER. I can't have a social life, she raises us to be antisocial. She's got issues she hasn't dealt with nor does she think even exists. So back to what happened. She got so mad that she threw my laptop down, punched the wall, tipped my orange juice over and started yelling at how much she wanted to hit me. Im so sick and tired of this. Tired of trying. Im sorry I have a short fuse but im not a bad person, I dont drink, smoke, cuss her out, hit her. NONE of the things my oldest sister use to do. Im a good girl and I get treated like crap sometimes. Im done, so tired I just cant. So now im grounded without this laptop I now have to give up and my ipod....my only source of music. As dramatic as this posts sounds its more serious than you think. I want to hit her and as soon as that day happens is the day I can't turn back. She will treat me like my oldest sister and it will be hell for my teenage life.So its a lose/lose situation. FML. Sometimes I just wanna call CPS and go live somewhere else....oh wait my oldest sis tried that. Sometimes I wanna die....oh wait thats taken too. So I just have to live in hell for the next 4 years...FML. Advice? (link)
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I went through a very similar situation when I was in high school. I managed to find a way to be social and get away but whenever I was with my mother there were only a few min of peace between fights. The main difference was that instead of hitting me she would hit herself. I eventually wound up going to a therapist to figure out how not to fight with her. If you can figure out a way to get counseling from a professional I highly suggest it. When she got into an abusive relationship I ended up having two sever panic attacks and one minor one. But after 4 months of therapy I was able to get myself under control. The best advice I can offer besides seeking professional help, is to shut down when she starts yelling at you. If you let her in your head when she is in that state then you will break and things will only get worse, trust me. SO when she gets to the point of screaming and throwing things just let it wash over you. pretend you are somewhere else and just ignore it. It is the same concept as going limp when someone tries to attack you. she is attacking your mind so just roll with the punches. eventually she will realize that she is not getting anywhere and she will stop and go away. Also try to make at least one close friend that you can go to at school the next day. And never give up, ever. You can make it through. The best thing my therapist ever said was. Yes, your life is hard right now, and yes it is probably going to get worse before it gets better, but you just have to keep your eye on the light at the end of the tunnel and know that one day you will be in control of your own life and all of these problems with your mother are going to make you a better person. You are taking in all the bad she is giving you so you get to choose if you put out more bad like your sister, or use it to turn yourself into a wonderful kind and loving person. Just stay strong and know that every storm runs out of rain.
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