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i am awkward around men
Hi, 16/f
Basically in the past I have been bullied and taken advantage of by boys and just messed around.. nothing major just little things, but it still makes me uneasy. Every time a boy I don't know will say hi to me or ask me a question I always think they are joking or that they will walk away and laugh to my friends about me.. I always think they have been put up to talk to me as a joke or something. Because I always think this I act very blunt, answering just 'yes' or 'no' sometimes I don't even reply. It's really hard for me when I see my friends talking to boys because it makes me think I'll never find someone that actually loves me because I'll never actually believe them.
How do I stop this? What can I do?
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I've done something like this before. In fact, I've turned down someone I was really interested in because she had a friend ask for her... twice! haha, I still occasionally think back and regret finding out if our friends were just messing with me. I don't think they were.
Things eventually worked out and my guess is they will for you as well. My advice is to weigh things out. Is it worth the risk?
Maybe think of it this way: if a boy tries to talk to you and then walks away and laughs, they're a jerk. They aren't worth much of anything at all to you and now you know that for sure. That's the worst case scenario. The best case scenario for avoiding the conversation is that you'll never know if they were a jerk or not. For me, it would be better to know they were a jerk than to never know if they were seriously interested in you.
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