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Can't make friends in college
I've just started at university but am finding it really hard to make friends. While everyone else was able to make friends before freshers week in halls, I was unable to get accommodation because of living too near to the college- Now everyones become "clicky" and I'm left on my own. I find it difficult to make new friends at the best of times, but I've really been trying this week - but still, everyone I try and make conversation with ends up walking off with their friends. How can I make friends??
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I had a similar problem. It can be really hard. Honestly, even though it feels like it, you're not alone in your loneliness. There are tons of people on campus in your situation and the best part is they're not all loners and weirdos, most of them are really rather normal. There are a few things you can try. Go to meals early. Like, at 11:30 or 4:30 if you can. Before I made friends, I didn't want to be embarrassed by not being able to find a place to sit by myself in a crowded dining hall. I'd always go early and I saw a lot of other people doing that too. It takes guts, but find someone that's sitting by themselves and just ask if you can sit with them. They'll probably really appreciate it and you might make a friend out of it. Another thing you can try is joining a club of some sort. At both of the colleges I went to, there were frequently tables out with people from clubs trying to recruit members. I don't know if you're religious, but the Christian clubs are a great place to start. They're really accepting. A third thing you can try is to try to make a connection with people in your classes. I know that for me, I would pretty much go to my classes and then sulk in my room. There's probably a few people in every one of your classes that's dying for friendships too. Honestly, all it takes to make friends in college is guts of steel. You just have to walk up to someone and strike up a conversation. You'll find people will usually react well to you if you do this. Whatever you do, don't worry about your situation. There are a lot of people in college that don't make friends until like, a year in. It's going to suck and it may take a little while, but you'll find people. Good luck! :)
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