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mummy aggresive: My mom is an alchoholic who comes home and rages at us... well I fought back, now what?
my mum is an alcohol addict,she comes drank and take it all on us especialy the housemaid.insultn her,shouting etc.today i felt bad after the action and i told her what i felt.and i shouted at her she is pissed bigtime.pls help.what do i do
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The problem with alcoholics is there is nothing you can do to help them or force them to get help until they admit they have a problem. They won't admit to having a problem until they hit bottom which is different for every one.
My brother on-law is a 25 year recovering alcoholic. You are never cured, you are always in recovering. His bottom was waking up in the drunk tank at our local jail. The officer that arrested hi helped him get into aa. The officer and he are now best of friends and have been since that time. It is from him that I have learned about what it takes to help and alcoholic and the first step to recovery is admitting that you have a problem. Until then there is nothing that can be done for them.
There is though something that you can do to help yourself along with your siblings and you dad. That is to join and seek advice from a group called al anon and al ateen for the teenagers. These groups have regular weekly meetings where you will meet people like yourselves who are dealing with people addicted to different substances. Through them you can and will learn how best to deal with your mom.
There is no real charge to attend these meetings. Like in aa during a meeting a basket is passed and you are asked to make any donation you can afford. If you can't afford a donation then you don't make one. You will not be turned away.
Below is the URL which will take you to the website for the al anon/al ateen meeting locator.
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Stick to your guns. Don't apologize or back down, then she'll take that as a sign that you're weak and she'll keep mistreating you. I'm not saying to be a total bitch to her, but definitely keep telling her how you feel, even if it comes out in loud rants. Eventually, she'll have to ask herself: Why is she acting like this? Maybe I am doing something wrong...
Alcoholics typically don't take subtle hints or anything. You need to be aggressive to deal with an aggressor. As long as there is no violence going on, just keep doing what you're doing. Trust me, its the best thing for you to do in this situation. If things get worse or if she starts to hurt one of you, contact child services or the police.
I hope I helped
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You should get your father and siblings if there are any and people who love her together and confront the problem and let this be the final straw. She has to recover before hurting herself and the family further.
Al-Anon if you guys call them will have resources for you and advice on how to deal with her rage and out of control drinking. Don't do this without adult help or confront her alone. If she comes in a rage to you later back off and leave the house for awhile indicating "we're not doing this again." and hopefully when she sobers up it will make her see.
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