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am i a lesbian!?
16/f I watch lesbian porn, sometimes, and I just like watching two other girls do it but I can't see myself doing it.. I can never fully masturbate over a guy but other times I can, I do not feel in love or am attracted to any women or think they are hot or whatever, I've had boyfriends before.. is it weird that I have watched lesbian porn, am I a lesbian? Part of me just thinks its interesting the other half just knows it will be able to get off because I'm not turned on by heterosexual porn, but if I was doing some of that stuff with a guy myself I would be turned on.. any advice comments? (I'm not addicted to porn by the way. I've only watched like a few vids, its something that's happened recently)
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Relax, you are a normal 16 year old female with normal sexual curiosity seen during you puberty years. Don't be so fast to label yourself. Even if you were a lesbian, which I assure you you are not. There is nothing wrong with that as that is who you would be and how you were programed at birth. To label yourself at your age though would be detrimental and hurtful to you because your peers and classmates would be entirely negative.
Yes I got off the subject for the moment but that needed to be said so you understood that labels hurt and we are far to fast to label today. At your present age it is only proper that you be sexually curious. Boys are sexually curious as well. They experiment sexually within their own group(s) of male friends as do many women.
I know many women that are totally hetero but if you knew them in college you would say they were lesbians. Why? Well for one thing lesbian sex was safer and for another it was more available and provided the sexual relief they needed. Yes they dated boys occasionally and even had sex with them, so maybe if they were labeled they would be labeled bi.
Back then we were not so fast to label people. Once labeled it is hard to remove the label. So worry less about putting a label on yourself and just enjoy being who you are and enjoy finding out about your sexuality.
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It has been demonstrated in psychological experiments that most women, even those who identify as strictly hetero, get sexually excited by watching lesbian pornography. The reason, it has been suggested, is that women empathize with the women onscreen, and thereby get turned on just as they do. The fact that the porn actresses are having sex with other women is less important than the fact that they're enjoying it (or at least, they are acting as though they are).
You may not be having the same reaction to hetero porn because the male character is not one you can identify with, and he is therefore a distraction.
Insofar as whether this "makes you a lesbian"... no, it doesn't. You could accurately call yourself a "lesbian" if you exclusively preferred sexual relationships with women, which is clearly not the case. You may not even be bisexual. There's really no reason to label yourself at all at this point in your life. But the important thing is that you are NOT necessarily a lesbian just because you like watching images of women having sex with women.
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