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Why does my dad treat me like this :(
I'm 14 to start off .
Okay , so My dad has been acting stranger towards me , ever since he found out I had a boyfriend which was like 1 year ago .(I don't have a boyfriend anymore cause I realize I need to focuse in life more) But anyways That changed him ? /: I don't know how . But it did ... I don't understand . He started treating me differently ... If I asked for something he tells me "your old enough , get it yourself" and me and him rarely even speak now. He comes back from work at night and he doesn't really talk to me . He gets mad at me for every single LITTLE thing ! When I wanna tell him something good ' he ignores me .. :( or he just says "that's great , but when are you going to clean this house or help your mom" . I ask him for money for some shoes for school and he says no but my older brother (the best one in the family) asks him an he says yes . He always listens to him more and probably because my brother is successful in everything . And my dad just looks at me like "what are you going to do with your life" like as if I'm not trying /: I spend my time locked in my room the whole time cause I like thinking and planning my life .when my dad comes back from work he always says "why can't you do anything around here than just be in your room texting and getting on Facebook" That's not even true , I'm trying ! I'm thinking on how I can be good enough for someone ! Look just cause parents think they have a hard life trying to work , raise a family , put food on the table , get us everything we need , try to pay everything , doesn't mean our life's arent hard ! I'm not saying my life is the worstest but it still is something . I'm here struggling to be the best to make my parents proud ! Planning my life ! Trying at school ! Trying for my own needs ! I'm trying ! Too ! Just cause my parents didn't finish school They don't know how hard it is ! And then having to deal with ignorant people at school ! My parents don't even listen to me. When we argue and I tell them how i feel . They say im stupid /: Well I'm sorry that my feelings are something stupid . Sorry I'm only human...
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First, step back and relax. This isn't your fault. Sometimes, people are just wacked out of their minds and, unfortunately, some of those people are parents.
This is a weird twist on the Oedipus complex on your father's part. Either that or you getting to be old enough to date has made him feel old and he resents it. Whatever the case, it's all in his head. So don't take it personally. Just start treating the nonsensical stuff he says with all the credibility that such stuff deserves: none.
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Hey there,
I'm very sorry to hear your parents are shutting you out. :(
Don't lose heart though. Some parents can be like that. They forget what it is like to be young. Trying to figure out your role and place in the world. Trying to make everyone proud, trying to fit in trying to succeed.
Try not to put so much pressure on yourself. Whether you realise it or not your parents do love you! Sometimes it might not seem that way but trust me they do. They have your best interests at heart and often say these things to better you. Sometimes it does feel like you're stuck in a siblings shadow but never compare yourself to your brother.
You're your own person and your parents should realise that. They shouldn't call you stupid for trying to tell you how you feel. They are probably just putting it down to teenage drama, either way you should be listened to. If your parents don't do it find someone who does. A close friend or relative, even a teacher. Someone you can vent to :) You can always do it here, we have all had our ups and downs.
Don't try so hard to prove yourself to your parents, if they can't already see how great you are then they are missing out on getting to know their wonderful daughter, and that's their problem. Don't stress over trying to succeed at everything. Do YOUR best, not everyone else's but yours. Take everything day by day and live your life. Don't let anyone put you down or criticize you. People may say you're good for nothing but you're good for everything. One day you will prove them wrong.
Best of luck and if you ever need to talk my inbox is wide open.
Much <3
Jess 19/f
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