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12 yr. olds sex life :(
ok so my friend is 12 (im 13 we're like 3 months apart) and today she was going on about how this boy, lets call him O and her D, wants to have sex with her. you know what? here's the REAL conversation.
D:omg O wants to have sex with me!!
me: but eww you guys r too young and noones gonna sell condoms to you guys!
D: O has pulls, duh.
me: no D its a really bad idea youll be known as a slut.
D: WHO CARES ive liked him for 5 yrs.
me: so? you arent even dating him!!!!
D:what ever you dont get it.
me: yeah i do.
D: at least ive had a one night stand.
i havent replied to her yet but i dont want her to screw up :( i want to email it to her parents soo bad but i dont know what to do. and i really want to reply, THATS NOT A GOOD THING. i think you are screwing up your life and i swear ,D if you do have sex i think ill just breakdown because i just cant deal with the fact that one of my friendds has had sex 1. because your gonna screw up your reputaion and your gonna get in trouble for sure.
2.i cant let you.
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First: You are right to look out for your friend this way. Instead of you going to her parents I might suggest that you have a talk with your mom and let your mom have a talk with her mom. That does two things. It lets your mom approach her mother which is better and it keeps you out of the middle which also allows you to tell your friend you didn't tell her mom anything.
Next at this age much of this about sex is more talk then action. One or both of them will back out. The talk is more to boast that they did something you haven't to try and get you to do something you don't want to do.
Then their is the possibility that even if they try they will not be able to have sex for physical reasons. They are really to young and their bodies are not ready yet. Her vagina may not yet accept his penis. He may not be able to keep an erection long enough to penetrate a vagina. This all depends on where they each are in puberty.
Now it is possible that they can and they will have sex. It will be painful for her and if she is lucky she won't get pregnant. They are both under the age of consent so the law doesn't play a big part in this. Depending on the state the worst that can happen is they are charged as juveniles with some form of juvenile mischief.
My best advice is to talk to your mom and let your mom talk to her mom. Yes this is about sex but not about you so you should not be embarrassed to talk to you mom. You are doing a good thing in trying to save your friend from making a big mistake.
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Good for you for looking out for your friend! It sounds like you really care about her and don't want her to do something she may regret. 12 years old is very young to be having sex; very few people are ready at that age. You are right to be concerned.
She doesn't seem to want to listen to you, so it sounds like a good idea to confront her parents. The thing about that, though, is that she may get angry with you for telling her parents. She may think you betrayed her. Sometimes people become defensive instead of realizing that you only want the best for them, and this is in her best interest. Just warning you so that you're prepared for it.
There are a lot of things that can happen from sex, and if she's blowing off condoms she definitely is not mature enough to be having sex. She doesn't seem to care about what can happen from sex (pregnancy, STDs, reputation damage, etc.) and that is a dangerous thing.
I hope that whatever decision you make works out for both you and your friend. You are a great friend for caring about her and for watching out for her. Good luck!
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wow wish i had a friend like you well if i were you i would talk to her one more time and convince her thats its a bad idea. if she doesnt listen then tell her parents she might not want to talk to you anymore but trust me she will. she ll still be your friend she is just going through a phase.
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You may want to confront her parents about your concerns for her. From the sound of it she isn't going to listen to you no matter what you say.
Also, She is way to young to be having sex with boys at that age. The age to consent to sex in many states is 16. It is unlawful and wrong to have sex at the age of 12.
I think it's really caring of you to be concerned for her and I would confront her parents privately about this matter. It's better to be concerned for her then to watch her make the biggest mistake of her life.
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