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Stay in the City or Leave?
I am a 17 year old girl, about to graduate high school and I need to choose a university. I live in a crazy and beautiful city and I've lived here my whole life so all of my family is here. They all are expecting me to stay close to the city. The only thing is that I don't feel safe in this city. There are so many threats, partly because there are so many creepy people in this city. being a girl, I take all precautions that I can (hiding my hair and covering myself up) I have never been in a serious situation but have been very close to many. With that, I hate this city. I never feel safe in this place because my life is always in danger. I have experienced too many situations where my life could have ended, but I'm smart and that is how Ive survived this long.
With graduation closely approaching, I figure that it might be my chance to get away from this crazy beautiful city. I have found this one place with low crime rates, small, and safe, on the other end of the country. That may seem like quite a stretch, I know; but I have fallen in love with this place, and I figure that it may be my chance to start an adventure. I thought that I could go to university there for a few years.
But of course my family is all here, and I wont be able to see them as much, and of course they may not be completely supportive of me leaving right after high school, or going across the country.
I'm simply looking for another opinion, if anyone could possibly help me out.
Sincerely,
-Not a City Girl
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Everywhere there is going to be danger. But whatever college feels right to you go for it. At some point in your life you are going to have to make a change, maybe staying in the city close to your family is a good choice because if you need someone you always have family! :)
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Every city has its problems large or small. I live in a rather small county mid way between DC and Baltimore. We are a rich County with a low crime rate. Yet last night three people died violent deaths and one is in shock Trauma hospital fighting for her life. In one instance I feel the police will call it a domestic related murder suicide. The other I will have to see. At one time the District of Columbia was better known for it high crime rate than for being the Nations Capital. Still your chances of being involved in a serious crime were less than being hit by a bus and just slightly better than winning the lottery.
What I'm trying to say is the crime rate where you live is not a reason to leave unless you happen to live in the pit of the crime area. Though I do agree you should try and out of state college if for no other reason than to broaden your horizons.
College life and dorm living is a chance to live and experience a different type of life than you have with your parents. Still within the confines of a semi-structured environment. It gives you an opportunity to spread your wings and experience life with a safety net of sorts.
I feel this is important for all young people to experience this before going out in the world to earn their way. For those that are not college candidates or who just plain can't afford college I would recommend military service for it affords similar life experiences with the same although broader safety nets.
My advice: Consider a school away from home, but not for the reasons you gave.
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In any city you go to, there is danger. You are not likely to be present in danger if you don't put yourself in that position to be in danger. I'm not saying that it will never happen to you but what I'm saying is that with everything that has happened to you, I can understand why you will be scared. But think about it, who will help you out if you are in a city where there is no one there to help you? No family... no one. I do admire your position on wanting to try an adventure and be somewhere else and be your own person. Honestly when it comes down to it, I don't think you should fly across the country for the sake of safety. Fly across the country because its where you want to be and it holds the best opportunity for you in life. I think you should probably talk to someone about how you feel about this situation, maybe your parents.
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