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Really nervous about sex
Hi guys, I'm 16 years old and I am female. I have been dating this guy for a little over 2 months and I am always In the mood to have sex with him but I am soo very self conscience about myself. I'm technically not a virgin but it was like 2 years ago. And he is double my size... Literally and I have to go on top cuz he will squish me. He's told me this, that when it happens I go on top. But how do I make myself feel more comfortable? Please please help me!! Thankyou so much!
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Doesn't matter about your age. Doesn't matter whether you are a virgin or not. Sex isn't hard when it's someone you are totally at ease with. In fact it's like breathing! It feels natural. And sometimes being squished is good.
However, if your not comfortable and feel self conscious...this is your bodies way of telling you that you're not ready. For a woman to be sexually confident, she needs to be secure in her own body...confident in the way she feels and moves. Happy with who she is.
It's not a bad thing to be not ready and don't confuse being horny with being sexually mature. If you really like this guy, take it slow and easy...stick to foreplay. Because believe me when you are ready to have sex...you won't be asking how do I make myself more comfortable. It will just happen...
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Be you 14 or 16 my thinking is you are still way to young to be having sexual intercourse. Yes, your body is capable and yes you may or are feeling sexual urges. What you are not ready for or have not arrived at is the maturity level needed to have adult sexual relations.
I'm not going to lecture you any further. The self-consciousness you feel is two fold. First: it is a warning signal that you are not ready to have sex with him, for whatever reason. Second: Two months is not a long enough time to form the right emotional attachment needed to enter into a sexual relationship.
Remember one thing about teenage boys. They confuse lust with love. If they are forcing you or begging you for sex then it is not love but lust they have for you. This is not the emotional attachment you need to have a sexual relation with them.
When you are older you will be able to form emotional relationships faster then at your present age. This is because with maturity comes the wisdom of knowledge of choice or choosing.
For know listen to you emotions and leave the sex part out of this relationship.
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I believe that you are self conscious because of a few different reasons.
First off. Because you have only been dating this boy for two months. I personally think two months is not enough time to get to know someone to be with them physically.
When you give your self and your body to someone you should be in love with them. And have been with them for a while longer than 2 months. It's an emotional connection between the two of you.
also i believe that you are not fully ready to be with him in the emotional level needed to be comfortable to giving yourself to him.
You need to accept yourself for who you are. (not saying you dont accept yourself)
And when you are ready. you will feel alot more comfortable in being with him in a physical and emotional level.
Hope this helps:)
Xo.Jasmine~
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It's a good thing you're self concious. It isn't a great idea to sleep with a guy who you've only been with for two months. You shouldn't just be having sex with anyone. It isn't a good look for you.
I can promise you that once you guys have sex, you guys won't make it another 3 or 4 months. Just saying from past experience.
You're 16, and according to your statement, you've had sex before- when you were 14.
Doesn't seem like you love this guy; you're in lust.
If you aren't comfortable around him, there isn't anything WE can tell you. Thats all on you, and how you feel for him. If you truely cared for him, than you wouldn't be self concious. How about you stop, think, and keep your legs closed for someone who you LOVE.
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