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My mom doesn't get it. All she does it put me down calling me ungrateful, stupid, and sometimes tell me to shut up. I wish she were a little more understanding. I've been to so many school counselors for advice and they just referred me to family counseling- in which now I have a case worker but I feel like there's no progress. My case worker then referred me and my mom to a psychologist.
When I got my report card a few months back, my mom flipped when I failed one class and saw that I was late or didn't even go to school. I was scared for the new quarter to come in the mail since I was still going to school late but I was failing three. I mentioned this worry to my psychologist on Saturday and she helped me break it down to my mom. In that same session, I was referred to a psychiatrist so that I can recieve an antidepressant.That same day she recieved the grades in our mail box but didnt say anything whatsoever. Sometimes she doesnt say a word, but other times she has too much to say/yell to me about. I wish she understood me. I was a 93 average student yet now I am a barely passing sophomore, failing 3 classes this marking period. Its like every time I push myself out there and try to get motivated, I feel like I fail more and more. When I miss school, it's so I can catch up but every time I enter school, Im even more behind due to absences. I was a motivated bright girl with a good future ahead of me. It were as if my depression took over my entire life and is controling as if I were a puppet controlled by strings. I miss the old me. I want to be good again, having healthy emotions but my world doesn't have a sun anymore, for its a cave of darkness closing in on me. (link)
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My heart breaks when I read this. Every relationship in our lives has to be worked at, given time and understanding.
I am not sure what is causing your mum to belittle you, though I am thinking...things might not be as straight forward as you think and your probably not the only one struggling in day to day life. Do you know if she is struggling financially. I am not making excuses for her, she shouldn't put you down. But how can you heal if you don't understand one another?
You don't mention how or when your depression became evident. You don't mention your dad at all. What changed to take you from bright and bubbly, to this half shade girl struggling to find light?
Depression is a sickness, it's like trying to move forward but hands pulling you further and further away from the light. You need to face the root of your depression, before you can step forward.
I want to help but I feel like I am looking at half a picture, the answers are in the background behind you in your past.
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Theres this girl at school ,shes my friend ,so I LIKE HER ALOT
she doesn't like dating but i think thats because her friends are around her . What do i do?
From, Jdo225 (link)
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Would it be possible for you to provide a little more like both of your ages.
Does your friend know you like her? How do you know she doesn't like dating?
I don't want to assume anything in my reply to you...the more facts, the more help I can give.
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Is it a bad thing my girl friend had sex with 34 people (link)
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Well you never said how old she is for one.
Without more information I really can't say...both your ages would be a good start.
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Hi guys, I'm 16 years old and I am female. I have been dating this guy for a little over 2 months and I am always In the mood to have sex with him but I am soo very self conscience about myself. I'm technically not a virgin but it was like 2 years ago. And he is double my size... Literally and I have to go on top cuz he will squish me. He's told me this, that when it happens I go on top. But how do I make myself feel more comfortable? Please please help me!! Thankyou so much! (link)
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Doesn't matter about your age. Doesn't matter whether you are a virgin or not. Sex isn't hard when it's someone you are totally at ease with. In fact it's like breathing! It feels natural. And sometimes being squished is good.
However, if your not comfortable and feel self conscious...this is your bodies way of telling you that you're not ready. For a woman to be sexually confident, she needs to be secure in her own body...confident in the way she feels and moves. Happy with who she is.
It's not a bad thing to be not ready and don't confuse being horny with being sexually mature. If you really like this guy, take it slow and easy...stick to foreplay. Because believe me when you are ready to have sex...you won't be asking how do I make myself more comfortable. It will just happen...
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I am 20 years old, female and my boyfriend is 46! We have been together for almost a year and a half. My parents are forcing me to break up with him! And are taking everything away from me untill I do. like my truck, phone, and are going to kick me out. I just started a minume wage job and can't afford these on my own yet! Not sure what I should do? (link)
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Ok...the parents are playing hardball. I imagine they are rather disturbed by the age difference. There is no easy answer to this.
He is old enough to be your father springs to mind. However, one could say Catherine Zeta Jones likes really old men too. Some people are wired that way.
You need to sit down with your parents and get them to tell you why they are against this relationship. No getting defensive.
It might not be the age but the person they don't like. If you still don't agree with their reason then you need to make a choice...your family or not. It's not a good choice but you do have one.
A family at odds is never good...communication and honesty are key. What is more important to you...your family or your man?
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okay, does this sound screwed up to you? my best friends ignore me, and im pretty sure they dont like me cause i can tell they talk about me behind my back (and when im right next to them sometimes) but then two seconds later they skype call me and act like nothings wrong or when they ignore me and act like complete bitches to me and insult me i get upset then one of the may be like "whats wrong?" even though its pretty obvious. and two out of the three of them got in a fight with me once and told the other one they didnt like me but the other one was there for me and fixed everything.. but now shes seeming to be the bitchiest lately. i was in a fwb relationship with this guy who was there for me throughout everything and ALL we did was like cuddle and hangout and go out to eat sometimes and kiss but we hadn't made out yet cause i was waiting for the right time (i mean we weren't even dating so it's not like i was rushing anything) and he just dropped me out of no where cause "it was gettin too serious" even though WE DIDNT EVEN DO ANYTHING. and now hes with some other chick doing the same thing to her. and im prettyy sure he just was using me for a bootycall. even though everything felt real. and now i have to make the decision of moving. honestly i only have to stay in this town for one more year then im for sure moving to a big city but i dont know whether to wait everything out until it gets better or to just move to some really small christian school that i know nothing about. I do have other friends at my school, but i don't know. Right now everythings just screwed up and I have no idea what to do with my life. (link)
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I get the feeling that you are fairly young.
Ok hun...reality check. If your so called friends are talking about you behind your back...they aren't your friends...they're bitches. Good friends don't bad mouth you. I've known plenty of fair weather friends...so over them. Ditch the idiots. You are so better than them. Stick with the friends that make you feel good about yourself.
With regards your FWB...it's about sex nothing but sex. The fact that you are waiting for the right time and you haven't done anything but hangout etc...that's not FWB...that is more of a relationship...hence exit side left buh bye Mr Dipshit. FWB is you scratch my itch, I scratch yours. If you are not ready for sex, then don't get a FWB. It's not about emotions...it's about the moment. Like you said booty call. Booty call = FWB. Understand? Men don't define you...you do!
Take a deep breath, you are not alone in what you are experiencing. You have a year left...and it is a different ballgame in the city. Your life may feel awful...do what you need to do...to be happy, to be confident in yourself. After all it may seem vain but it is all about you...what you want, what you need. Good luck and I hope it all comes good for you.
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