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My Mom Loves My Brother More...Help?
Well I used to be the prize in the family. You know straight A's, popular, a good kid, and everything you could ask for in a kid. When I got to 6th grade it was harder because my school is for all gifted students so I got A's B's and a C. My parents weren't happy but I still was the prize. Then my brother decided to try going into the Army. All of a sudden everything changed. I'm the one that does all chores except one and if I don't do them I get in trouble but my bro doesn't get in trouble in he doesn't do his ONE chore. If one speck is left on the counter, I get yelled at and when my mom is in a bad mood because of me she goes to my brother and says "SOMEONE made me mad, it's ok honey, it's not your fault." She gets upset with me SO easily and never gets mad at my brother even though he eats ALL the food in the house and knows he's not supposed to, doesn't do his chore, his room smells like a pig pen, he doesn't follow ANY rules! I know going into the Army is a big thing but I don't think it's necessary for al this to happen.
I've tried talking to her MANY times but everytime she yells at me and I cry and she yells at me for crying. Then goes to my brother and says "it's ok, it's not your fault!"
I'm sorry it's long, but what can I do? Thanks a bunch!
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Well, as your brother joined the army your parents are probably a bit scared, seeing as the dangers that come with the job. Considering you say you have tried talking to you mum, but it didn't work: It may seem like an odd thing to do, however you could try writing a letter explaining how you feel. Although you live with her, if you leave her a letter she can take the time to read through it and think about how it is affecting you. Be careful not to make it seem as you are telling her that she is not doing her job as a mum, be sensitive, because you don't know she could be feeling like your being distant from her.
Hope this helps a bit :)
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I know you feel. I'm the oldest of 3 kids and my parents spoiled me until my brother and sister had came along. For awhile now, my mom has made it seem like she loves my sister more than me. And she's done some of the things that your mom has done to you. What you have to realize is that your mom does love you even if she doesn't always show it. She's hard on you because she knows that you can do well. Also, she's probably nervous about your brother going into the army. She wants to him to know that she loves him because he won't always be home for her to tell him. She's probably stressed as well. The next time you feel upset, try giving her a big hug and telling her that you love her. I'm sure that would make her happier and keep her from yelling at you. I know it all sucks, but it will get better if you try your hardest. Stay strong!
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