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Shit...am I really losing feelings for him? He doesn't deserve it.
I have the most amazing guy all to myself as my boyfriend. He is crazy funny, very caring, comforting, and understanding, and I can really be myself around him. I don't ever get scared or nervous around him. It's like I have known him for years. He is thoughtful. He surprises me with cute little trinkets and places I've always talked about wanting to go to. He never lets me down and I have a prince charming on my hands. He always lets me know he loves me and does all these sweet things for me. I hate being away from him, and we've been dating for 8 months. We talk a lot of our future together.
I don't know what it is lately, but I have been getting very annoyed with him. The things I'd normally find cute I find very very very irritating. I feel bad because I know he is just trying to make me laugh and make me feel happy. He always says that's his goal in life, to make me happy endlessly. I feel stupid. I mean, come on. I have everything I have always wanted. Yet I have been off and on with my feelings. Once I felt the same way I do now, not fond of him and feeling like I am losing feelings for him, and he cried when I told him. That hurt so bad to see him like that. We worked things out over a matter of days.
I just don't know why I feel this way. He just irritates me lately and I get mad easily and then we fight. We fight A LOT. About the dumbest stuff too, but he never yells or hits me. He just stays calm and holds me while we talk, even if I yell and cry. I feel horrible. I am so stupid to believe and let myself lose feelings for this amazing person. He doesn't deserve any of it.
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You know as the relationship goes on its not all sunshine and rainbows. A lot of challenges come up and its how you both face them together. I know its hard relationships aren't meant to be easy. I've gone through some hard stuff with my boyfriend of 4 years and it hasn't been easy. I have been at that point where I wonder if we are in love or if its not. I've been without him, and my world without him isn't happy. I hated not being with him I hated not speaking to him. I love him more than I can say. Think to yourself of what your life would be like without him. Can you even see this guy in your future? Can you picture getting married and having kids with this man? Think before you make any irrational decisions. In the end you want to be happy and if this relationship isn't making you happy you have to do something about it.
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Well, I was in similar situation 4 months ago. I wasn't sure about my feelings for my boyfriend and I broke up with him. When I did it, I felt horrible. I didn't know what to do. I was just sitting and crying even if I was the person who broke up. I phoned him that same day and I was trying to apologise him. I wanted him back but he said no. He knew that I had been missing him and it was the only reason I called. I really wanted to be with him again, but he was so hurt... He wanted to see that I really care. And I tried. But it was connected with changing myself and it was so hard for me but I thought I loved him. It last 2 weeks. And we got back together. I was so happy! But only for few weeks... And then I realised that was a big mistake. It wasn't love, it was devotion. (We were together for 1,5 year) I haven't broken with him because I can't.
So look. If I were you, I would think of, hmm, let's call it 'advantages' and 'disadvantages'. You can make him happy and pretend that you're happy too, but it won't make things right. You don't really know if you love him in the future. I know that you don't want to hurt him and break his heart. But pretending that you love him will hurt you. I think that you should think of yourself too. What do you think he would do if he figured out that it was just a big lie?
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what happened here is that you were spoiled with love. I personally relate to this. my gf also felt the same way. she ended up breaking up with me because she lost her feelings for me. we broke up and I ignored for a
little and that made her realize what I actually meant to her. she also went out with a group of friends and realized how uncomfortable she was with other guys. that brought back her feelings for me. I'm pretty sure there's an easier way to deal with this rather than such dramatic way, because the time I wasn't with her was very difficult for me. it's time to be honest with yourself and do whatever you have to do to gain your feelings back if you know that he is worth it.
Also do not make him sad. trust me it doesn't feel good when a person you love more than anyone else in this world is mad at you and doesn't feel the same way about you. it's heart breaking. try controlling urself when your mad and don't take it out on him. punch a pillow, ripp old newspapers, or anything not harmful to anyone or urself.
when your with him, kiss him, hug him. if u care about him that will help him. no matter how much of a though guy he is and he might not admit it but a Hug will make him feel safe.
Hope I helped. everything will be alright ull get your feelings back
I promise <3 you just gotta believe it
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This kind of thing happens to many people who spend a lot of time together, not just couples but best friends too. The best thing to do in the situation is to try spending less time together for a few weeks. During the time that you aren't with him, think about the relationship you have with him, the good and the bad. It might be able to help you see whether you still have feelings for this guy or not. I hope this helps and good luck :)
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