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I like my boss as a father figure
I am in 20s, a college student female, also working full time for this person almost half a year. He is very smart person in his 50s or even more, and we all respect him. We rarely see each other because he is very busy with his other locations - businesses but he always calls to the office to check things. The thing is that I like him as a father, I respect him and do what he tells me to do. Whenever I have a problem, he helps me and solves all my problems right away. He asks about my college, whether I was doing good in school and stuff like that. He treats me as if I was his daughter (At least that's how it seems to me). Also he has a large family, a wife and several grown up children my own age. I like him so much that I even miss hem sometimes. I do think of him a lot and sometimes have dreams about hitm, but there is nothing sexual, and he would never do that to any of us. My own father died when I was little and I always missed my father's love and attention. I found this attention from my boss and and for me he became my secret father. By the way, I have a boyfriend who is far away due to his studies. What should I do? Should I quit? I think he even does not have a time to think about me, and he has more important things like his family and business, but I am jealous. Please help me.
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I think your boss is talking to you because he has people in his own family of a similar age, and knows how to treat you accordingly. He appears to be a well meaning man, and you are seeing him as more of a paternal figure than a person above you in a place of employment.
I am 21, and have a boss of the same age, and thought he would think of me a lot, but if you think about it he appears to be a busy man and in reality would only be making conversation with you out of politeness and courtesy while at work and to be professional rather than someone more personal like a father daughter relationship.
It may be better to try and find a more concrete social outlet elsewhere, trying keeping in contact with your boyfriend more, ring him every evening or become more involved in another social group outside work where there is more male interaction. The lack of a paternal figure as you grew up could be an inner desire to have male attention, as you felt it was something you missed when you were younger.
My advice, talk to your boyfriend a bit more, phones are everywhere now, and learn to find other social outlets, meet friends for coffee, get know your other work colleagues better.
Hope this helps.
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