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My mom thinks I'm a lesbian but I'm not!!!
14/f
Okay, so my mom thinks I am a lesbian but I am completely straight. I've had three boyfriends and my mom knows that. But she is under the impression that I like girls because I don't talk about liking guys with her. When I got my first boyfriend, My mom asked me if I liked him and I was like "well you know, we're pretty much friends but people just like the title." Of course, I did really like him and was dating him for more than the title but I didn't want to tell my mom that because things would be so awkward. Trust me. If I talked about guy I like with her, it would be SO awkward and she would keep asking me questions about it. So I know that she thinks I'm a lesbian because today she was like "who do you like?" and I said nobody. She then said "do you even know what it feels like to have a crush on someone??" and I was like no, because if I say yes she will interrogate me about it!! And then she asked what male celebrity I find attractive, and believe me there are MANY male celebrities I find attractive, but I said nobody because otherwise it would be awkward. So then she's like "well you must be attracted to girls then. What girls do you think are attractive? You're that type." And I told her that I don't like girls!!!! But I don't want to tell her who I like because it will be annoying and awkward, but I don't want her thinking I'm a lesbian either! What should I do? Thanks :)
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as much as your going to hate this.. you need to open up to her more.. BUT failing that here as some suttle hits you can drop her:
1) grab a mag... flick through the pages find a hot guy. show her and be like to her " oi mum dont you think hes hot?" once she replies laugh and keep flicking through the pages so you "dont make it akward"
2)talk about your FRIEND guys.. like when your hanging at school. when she asks the typical question "how was school?" instead of saying nothing... say " well (insert name)
and me were hanging out and ( whatever you did).... things like this will let her know your hanging out with them atleast.
3)if your going on a date or out with a boy.. MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT~ well atleast infront of your mum. ask her if she likes what your wearing... if you should change your jacket ect.
4) the hardest option .. open up to her about how you actually feel. because i can see how it may seem akward at your age but in time it wont be and you WILL want to talk to your mum about stuff.
shes only trying to help.. and to get to know you better, so give her a break
:) hope that helped
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Ignore her. She is being a brat.
Does she actually think you are a lesbian? Maybe. But she DEFINITELY thinks that if she pisses you off, you'll tell he more about the guys you like.
She's trying to get you talking, but her approach is underhanded and nasty.
And If I were you, I'd call her on it. Tell her "Mom. I think you saying that to piss me off and trying to bully me into telling about the guys I like. That's a cheep trick and it makes me want to talk to you about guys even less than I already do."
But the other thing you need to do, is learn how to tell your mom what you want to tell her, and not anything more.
You need to be able to say "Yeah, I kinda like so-and-so" or "Yeah, that actor is cute" and then just stand strong against her interrogations. That's part of learning how to be honest and true to yourself, without being a door mat. It can feel a bit awkward, but you need to push through that, because you can't manage you mother with complete silence. She deserves a small amount of direct honesty.
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