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Homophobic Parents
So I am a 15 yeard old female, and I am bisexual. I am sure this is not some "phase". I have always had an attraction to girls, and this year I've felt that attraction even more.
Let's cut to it. I've told abou 10 of my friends that I am bi, and all of them have accepted it so far.
Basically, I have no problem coming out to the world as a bisexual, but it's my parents. They are very homophobic. And when I say very I mean extreamly. My dad hates andything related to LGBTQ, and my mom does too, but she has a bi friend.
What I'm basically asking is if you have any tips on how to come out to homophobic parents, or what I should do etc.
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It's really great that you know who you are as a person and are proud of it. I am also Bisexual, and started coming out to friends about 2 1/2 years ago. And slowly told my mom and two sisters. My Dad still doesn't know. My advice to you is, that you don't need to rush telling your parents. It's not, "staying in the closet" it's just you doing you, to be the happiest you can be. The time will come when you feel that you should tell them. You shouldn't have to stress over your parents because of their feelings towards anyone of a different orientation from the "norm." Tips on how to come out, is to sit them down, and explain that you have been wanting to tell them because they mean so much to you, and that it would make you happier for them to know. They might not be happy at first, but eventually they should come around, because they love you no matter what. My mom still thinks it's a "phase" but you never know. Just take your time in telling them, and don't think you have to right away. Sorry for the wrong response, hope I helped :)
-Bri
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Do you have a teacher you trust or a counselor? With your permission they could explain to your parents how scared you are to come out with something you know you haven't control over--your orientation.
You could also ask a relative to be with you and do it that way to tell. Your best bet would be to contact PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) for advice on coming out to family and dealing with parents that are anti-gay etc.
Your parents are operating out of fear and ignorance and not liking the lifestyle but once they see that you are who you are and can't change they will accept you because you are their child. It takes guts to say something but it's better it comes out now in a controlled manner than in one you can't later.
Sooner or later if you have partners in the future they'll find out. Doing it at a PFLAG meeting or with their advice may be the ticket.
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Hi!!!I'm gay,male,and I know what it's like to live with homoph.parents,look I'm 26 and never told them anything about my sexuality,cause I understood that they would never accept it and I JUST DON'T CARE,because I'm just their son,that's all,I'm not gonna spend my whole life with them,I'm independent,sexually,emotionally,physically,etc..They are not gonna tell me who I'm gonna love or have sex with,so stop feeling awful about something that you know is pointless,they can either accept it or not,all the same you won't stop feeling the same throughout your entire life;)ps:I have another gay bro and my sister is a lesbian and we are very happy:)
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honestly, i am bisexual like a true one. more attracted to girls (and im a girl) than man and i have very strict christian parents. I never came out to them nor do i plan ever coming out to them because i'm 18 and they still don't even want me dating... yeah it's that strict.
but anyway i'm not going to "come out" to my parents because it's none of their business. My life should be my own. Now if you want to tell your parents just sit down and be direct.
Don't be slow at "ripping the bandaid" say it. don't let it lead to a discussion and tell them if they can't accept it, thats too bad because that is who you are.
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