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He did the number one DO NOT rule
hey, i am a columnist on here and i love helping people but now i need some help back. I've been involved with this guy over a year now, we happen to love each other. He redefined my perspective on love, on life, on MYSELF. He is... amazing.
But i live in a very strict old fashion christian family and i'm literally the only girl in my generation. My family doesn't even allow me to date and i'm EIGHTEEN!!!! Yeah... it's that bad.
But anyway... me and the guy were having sex... and he came in... not just a little bit. the full on throttle shot DEEP in there. i tried to wipe it out but idk if it did anything.
Now before you say where is the protection... talk to trojan. there condemn ripped... beautiful right?
But anyway whats my next move... i can't swallow pills (the morning after thing) and i could wait to c if i get my period but my body is wierd and i only get my period once every three-four months...
So what's my next move?
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Hello, Well I disagree with the first columnist...sorry. I don't think you should discuss if you took a pregnancy test or anything. I think it causes unnecessary problems. I know from experience. The morning after pill is very small so you will not even feel it as it's going down with water. All you have to do is rememember to take the second one at the designated time. After a month I would suggest going to your nearest Planned Parenthood, where they keep your information confidential so your family won't know, and tell them your situation. They check for pregnancy for free. That's what I did last time and it was perfect. Also, for the future I would talk to them about birth control so this doesn't happen to you again. It's a scary situation..believe me I know. They have different forms in case you really don't want to take the pills...which are also extremely small. Plus, you won't have to worry about your parents finding an actual test or anything. When they call you, they even ask for permission to say they are from Planned Parenthood. If you say no, they keep it anonymous. Try to be more careful next time because pregnancy is a HUGE life change. I know the response is long, but I would rather fill you in entirely...hope I was able to help. PS I have also heard that the "mirena" is just as effective as the pill and is worth it. It is uncomfortable for about a minute they put it in, but from what I have heard you can't even tell it's there after that.
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Two things first. Having your period once every three or four months makes it hard to know when in your cycle you are fertile. A women is usually fertile in mid cycle or 14 days past the end of her last period. This being a normal 28 day period. With your cycle it could be way different.
Two: Learn to swallow pills. At 18 you should be able to swallow pills. You can practice on M&Ms, I believe that is how most of us learned. Just put the candy on your tongue and drink a glass of water. Don't think about it, ext thing you know the candy goes down just as a pill will. Practice today and if you get it right and it has not been 7 days you can still take the plan B pill. Its not as effective as if it is taken with in 48 hours but it is known to still work.
Next if you and this boy are going to continue to have sex? You need to talk to your doctor about birth control. Your 18 an adult you do not need parental permission. There are methods of birth control, for you, that do not require taking pills. The pill is the most effective. They are small and you can put them in apple sauce or pudding if you need to.
Next even if you are on the pill, you know your boyfriend still needs to wear a condom. Make sure he knows what size to buy and how to put one on so they do not break.
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Simple straight-forward answer: use a pregnancy test! Just so you know, taking one right now will probably give you a false/questionable response, plus you say your periods are irregular, so what I would do is take a test in two weeks to confirm if you are pregnant or not BUT if you are really panicked right now, I would go and buy one asap! Just meaning your results may not be as accurate.. But by the sounds of it, honestly the odds could be that you are pregnant. Please don't stress until you know the fact though. As you may know, late periods can be caused by many things including stress and as I do not know when your next period is, please just breathe for now.
Also, I hope you talked to your guy about this. He needs to know, not necessarily now, but later once you've taken a pregnancy test.. whatever you do, do not try telling your parents about this right now. Wait until you've had a test and talked to your guy. If anything you should let your boyfriend know that you are worried about the condom breaking the other day and likely he will help calm you, as you've already said he is an amazing guy. I know what it's like to feel that connection with someone, so please talk to him and think about this together.. about the 'what ifs' - I'm sure he will understand. Discussing this calmly with him after the fact of a pregnancy test would likely be best... but either way, it needs to be done. So take a test, talk to your guy, then see where to go from there. If you need, feel free to inbox me to talk <3
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