Question Posted Thursday February 2 2012, 10:40 am
#1 Not looking for a "Stop we can help you" Solution
#2 Not even sure if im going to go through with it.
(will know in about 2 weeks)
#3 -=Looking for fast painless ways to die.=- (not sure exactly how to get a real gun but im sure i could find a way.)
#4 Thanks ever so much!
ANewBegining answered Friday February 3 2012, 2:26 pm: Mk so... -="What about the people you leave behind? What about their pain over loosing you? That is a pain that never goes away. A pain that is never answered for the question that is left behind."=-
There would only be two reasons "Brother" "Grad mother" Other then that... I'd be dead long ago... Them two are the only reason why im here ... now my life turns again well in about 2 weeks i wont have a place to live and a job... so im just sick of this wasted life yeah sure i get a long with a lot of people but ehhh they all do their own... i really dont want to leave my brother or my grand mother due to the fact my mom and grand father passed few years ago... theres stuff i could mention but dont want to cuz it would depress to many people. and i dont want people to feel sorry for me.... i just want to know good ways out if it calls for it.... im sick of Going with the flow of life... but theres nothing here for me... Anti freeze is painful i suppose? [ ANewBegining's advice column | Ask ANewBegining A Question ]
adviceman49 answered Friday February 3 2012, 11:32 am: There is a reason suicide is painful. To stop people from committing suicide who want a painless way to do so. Even if there was no one here would tell you, that is not what we do here. We are her to help make situations right, so that whatever is causing you to consider suicide can be fixed.
As a firefighter for over 35 years I can tell you I have never seen anyone commit suicide who did not have a pained expression on their face when we get to them. I wish Hollywood would portray suicide as it really is; painful and messy. Most times, even with a gun, the person only wounds themselves. Taking pills and booze is so painful that they end up calling for help. Not like on TV where they fall asleep peacefully.
What about the people you leave behind? What about their pain over loosing you? That is a pain that never goes away. A pain that is never answered for the question that is left behind.
You say in #2 your not even sure you are going through with this, that's good. Call this number 1-800-273-TALK. This is the National Suicide Prevention Hotline. It is totally confidential. You do not even have to given them you name or location until or when you want to.
You have not said what the problem is only that something in the next two weeks will cause you to make up your mind. his means that whatever it is can or could be averted or fixed. The the hotline. These people are professionals. If anything can be fixed or averted they will know who you need to go to for help to correct whatever is going to happen to cause you to take such drastic action.
I know of nothing that can't be fix, modified, or eliminated as a problem, especially before it happens. All you need to do is find the right people or agency to help. So call the hotline, Please. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
Carriebeca answered Friday February 3 2012, 10:36 am: I'm not sure why you're asking this question. Obviously, you've decided to commit suicide, there's nothing anyone can say or do to stop you.
Apparently, you an gain access to a gun so both the intention and the means to do this are there; the opportunity will occur in 2 weeks when whatever decides you happens.
What can I say? In 30 years of nursing, I've never known a fast, painless death. Each one has been frightening, especially if you're on your own. Deaths on TV/film are NEVER as shown; no-one has ever said "I'll tell where to find the will/money/secret of life - it's all in ... ohhh!"
and they die. Very dramatic but a lie.
Last year, an American senator was shot in the head? Thankfully she lived but its taken her a year to reach the point of learning to walk again. Do you want to risk that for yourself and your family?
I don't think you really want to do this at all. Why not try to change this event in 2 weeks that'll possibly spark your suicide? If whatever it is happens, can it possibly be bad enough to justify your death? If you succeed and do die, will your family/friends ask themselves why you didn't ask them for help?
Think very hard about your ultimate decision. Once you've made the attempt, there's no going back; if you don't succeed, there'll always be something left to remind you of it, scars, pain, memories. If you succeed and die, you'll never know what you might have becpme. It would be such a waste of your life.
Hope this helps and you make the right decision for you. If you need to chat, contact me or someone through Advicenators site. Best wishes, thinking of you X. [ Carriebeca's advice column | Ask Carriebeca A Question ]
NinjaNeer answered Friday February 3 2012, 12:51 am: If you've spent any time on this website, you'd know that we would never give you what you want. Even if anyone did want to tell you how to kill yourself, they couldn't because of the potential legal repercussions. Nobody does, though, because we're all here because we believe in the better side of life despite its difficulties.
Ask anyone here. We've all been through our own share of tough crap, some more than others. A lot of us have been in your situation (I ended up on this site years ago because I was also looking for a quick, painless way to die) and have overcome. We're not going to tell you to give up.
I'm also not going to tell you that we can help you. We can't. We're strangers on the internet. We can make suggestions, and we can reach out to you, but the only person who can really help you at this point is yourself.
I'm guessing that, based on the fact that you have a timeline, you're basing your decision on an event to happen in the near future. Whatever that event is, it's only going to be one moment out of billions. Don't let it be the one moment to determine how the rest of your life goes. No matter how important it may seem now, it's not worth missing out on every positive moment that you would experience if you were to live a full life.
I'm not preaching to you from the perspective of someone who has never dealt with hardship. Heck, I still deal with suicidal thoughts on a near daily basis. It's something I'm working on, and even just fighting it has given me things that I never thought I would have. If I had killed myself at age 18 when I first came to this website, I would never have met my boyfriend. I would never have bought a house with him. I would never have been married. I wouldn't have answered over 1800 questions on this site. There's a lot that I would not have accomplished if I had just given up then. Just about the only thing that keeps me going some days is the knowledge that even if I'm dedicating all my energy to holding on, I'm still leaving myself open to accomplishing and experiencing more.
I'm sure you know that you should be contacting a counselor or a mental health hotline. Or contact one of us. Or a friend, or a family member. Reach out to someone, because that's a bond that ties you to this planet. Do something good for yourself. Do something good for someone else. Find tiny reasons to hold on, and remember that there's no one thing worth ending your life for. [ NinjaNeer's advice column | Ask NinjaNeer A Question ]
gotchalk8 answered Thursday February 2 2012, 10:24 pm: Don't you have something in your life, even the smallest thing that you care enough about not to leave? A pet? A family? Friends? Anything? Even though I don't know you and I won't ever meet you most likely, I wont let you do this. I used to have suicidal thoughts, so did one of my freinds. It was because she thought she was too fat.
Why are you doing this? Find a happy place. Up in a tree or something and bring a notebook, a pencil, your live self, and a bottle of water. Sit outside in nature and feel the wind, see the leaves blowing in it, all those little bugs that mean nothing to you but if you look really close, you can see others that want to help it.
Find a song that makes you happy, mine is Show Goes On and Wavin Flag by K'NANN. Write how you feel in a poem or however you want it. Take a day to just let it be about YOU being HAPPY. I live everyday to it's fullest, and I love my life compared to when I wanted to kill myself.
Please, if you can't find your happy place or something or someone that cares about you or that you care about, email me. casi.craig@cox.net Thanks :) [ gotchalk8's advice column | Ask gotchalk8 A Question ]
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