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How can I get a date with this man?
I am a mature, single lady who is attracted to the man who owns the building where I have lived for almost two years. There is a bldg. manager so I never have to deal with him. We have said hello from time to time and I always felt the feeling was mutual. He is very successful and has four grown sons. He has always seemed to fight off any urge to get to know me. I have never seen him with any wife. Something is stopping him from seeing me. Perhaps his sons, or the fact that he is very wealthy might enter into it. I am very lonely and like him a lot. How can I get him to ask me for a luncheon date?
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well...maybe you can start by useing a pick up line next time you see him ask him....tell him you got a proablem you want to go out to eat but dont like eating alone ask him if he cares to hang out be bold ..some guys like that..if he smiles its all good if he says no thanks ..hes gay
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Ask him?
I know, it might feel unnatural, but ask him if he'd like to join you for lunch. Or, if you bake or cook, make something for him and offer it as a small thanks for being a lovely owner, or simply let him know, that although you see him very little, you'd like to consider him a friend.
For all you know, he might have a wife.
Or he might simply be shy.
It might be embaressing and you might get rejected, but if you are seriously interested, you might need to make the first, subtle move. Try to enter into a friendship. Only if the 'friendly' conversations and lunches go well, is there any reason to start calling them 'dates'.
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Next time you see him strike up a conversation. Don't linger too long. Just a few minutes. End the conversation before he does (always leave them wanting more!). Try something like "It was really great talking to you. I wish I had time to talk longer but I have to run. You should stop by for coffee later this week or next time you're in the building. It would be fun!" Casual, cheery and to the point. Remember, don't linger. You don't want him to sense that you are lonely. While its just the truth about your life right now, men can be turned off by women who seem too lonely...they may fear getting involved with someone who seems needy or desperate. Let him come to you. If he doesn't respond, then perhaps he just isn't interested, through no fault of your own. Sometimes the chemistry just isn't there, sometimes it is. I hope that it is for your sake, but if its not, consider joining some clubs/groups in your area that appeal to your interests. Its a great way to meet people who share your interests and get out more often. Good luck!
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