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How can I give him a boner?

Question Posted Wednesday December 28 2011, 12:43 am

So I'm a13 year-old girl, and I want a good way to give my guy a boner. We have been dating for 4 months (soon to be 5), so the touch barrier is broken. That doesn't mean I really want to give him a hand-job though. Thanks for the help. :)

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Additional info, added Wednesday December 28 2011, 1:14 am:
Also I would appreciate it if there were no comments about my age. Thanks again.

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Erinn_the_bamf answered Wednesday December 28 2011, 8:30 pm:
It's really not a good idea to give a guy a boner if you have no intention of taking things further. When boys become aroused they generally expect to have a sexual encounter. He might pressure you to go farther than you are comfortable with, and that's not a position you want to put yourself in.

That being said, don't just think because he gets a boner you HAVE to pleasure him. He will probably become aroused through simply making out, which is natural. You just shouldn't go on with the intention of making him erect.

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adviceman49 answered Wednesday December 28 2011, 10:12 am:
Frankly I think you are a little young to be thinking about this. You say "I want a good way to give my guy a boner. That doesn't mean I really want to give him a hand-job though." What he is seeing is that you are a tease. If you get him excited he would expect that you do something about it. If you don't then you are a tease. If you get a reputation as a tease that is almost as bad as getting a reputation as being easy.

My advice:

1. You are to young to be going down this road, it can easily lead to places you are too young to be going.

2. Stick to making out with him. Kissing and hugging for now.

3. If you want and you feel you can control him and yourself you can consider letting him feel you up above the waist and with his cloths on.

For now this is as far as you go. Your may have the body of a young women but you and your body are not yet mature enough to any farther sexually. You may be a very mature and responsible 13 year old. Even so you have a lot more to learn about life in general before you take the turn in life that leads to sex and sexual intercourse.

If you are a popular young lady, which I'm sure you are, you will have many more boyfriends in your life. All will want the same thing, sex. boys your age confuse lust and love, it is their hormones that drive them. Don't let their hormones force you to do something you shouldn't or are not ready for.

Wait until the time is right, until you meet someone you will have a long term relationship with. Possibly someone you can share your life with. I'm not saying you should wait until your married. What I am saying is that you should wait for someone that knows the difference between lust and love. That will respect you and not leave you after you become a notch on his belt.

The best thing for you to do to remain popular is to not become a tease and to respect yourself. By this I mean you do not have to have sex with a boy to keep him as a boyfriend.

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Spirit answered Wednesday December 28 2011, 6:22 am:
If you really want to make out, and are comfortable with it,

1.Initiate by kissing him on the cheek, cuddle him up in your arms and give him a smoochie. He would get turned on.

2.Talk sexy ;) Guys like girls who are assertive and confident and open. Simoly hug him tightly and run yiur hands all over him. He is likely to gte turend on.

3.Sit on his lap and run your hands over him going down there. He is most likely to get a boner ;)

Hope it helped a bit.

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Dman1807 answered Wednesday December 28 2011, 1:53 am:
If youve broken the touch phase and you want ti be sexual
Go ahead and act like it and ask him if he wants too do it
I can gurantee he will say yes

Plus slip him a peak from time to time

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gani1993 answered Wednesday December 28 2011, 12:57 am:
I'm 19. At thirteen I was not thinking about boners, sex, moretheless giving a guy a handy. Honestly of you think your old enough to do stuff then do so. But at thirteen showing someone you like them shouldn't be through sexual stuff. Kinda sad thirteen her olds are this bad now.

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