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I have to choose between my family or love and I don't know what to do.
I am stuck between my family and my love.
He is very nice guy but with poor background.
My parents are not allowing me to marry with him.
I love both alot but nervous regarding my family's opinion.
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You don't say what you mean by "poor background." What, he isn't in the same social class? Or is his family impoverished? Does he have any skeletons in his closet? It's hard to judge from what you wrote.
Providing that the guy isn't a scumbag, your parents really need to mind their own business. You might still be a member of your family, but everyone is an individual and thus only that individual knows what will make him/her happy.
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Ok this is not your family choice to make its yours. Look at it this way your family cant tell you whos the right one for you. They are not going to feel the way you feel for a gut ever. This is you choice if you love him then you should stay with him because family is going to always be there but not holding you at night, saying they love as they kiss you, claiming your children and leting them hold there last name. Tell them this if they love you they would except who you love in life but i see if your mans not making a change but if he is and your the only one who see it thats just because others dont want to notice they rather see him as a bad person and thats how they will always see him. Prove them wrong and good luck
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Family will always be there but this person may not. You never mentioned what exactly your parents don't like him over. Did he inadvertently offend them?
Does he not have university or college education? Is he unemployed? Does he have a shady background, lack character or has a criminal past? I wish you had elaborated.
Is this a cultural/religious issue? I'm asking because in some faiths unless both people are of that culture, religion it shames the family unless they convert or marriage is forbidden. Perhaps if that's the case he could convert.
You never mentioned your age. If you are an adult nobody can make you marry or not marry him it should always be your choice. However, if they have enough valid reason(s) against marrying him maybe they see what you haven't.
I don't think you have to choose between them and him but don't see even despite their scorn why both can't co-exist together. If you did have to choose family would have to win out because you'll need them no matter what especially if your relationship went south.
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