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still a virgin or not?
okay so i see your point on how being a virgin means you cant do it up the butt. Consider this though, you can get an STD by just having him rub his dick against your vagina withough inserting it into the vagina or butt. So i consider being a virgin if you have sex in the vagina because if the reason for sex is to have kids and by your definition of sex (doing it in the butt or vagina) then technically you can get pregnant in the butt? no you cant so technically losing your virginity is having sex in the vagina not butt, because you cant get pregnant by doing it in the butt.
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First, I wish people would stop obsessing on virginity. There is nothing special about it. Yeah, you might put off sex for a whole raft of pragmatic reasons (you aren't on birth control and don't want to get pregnant, you aren't ready for it emotionally, you have religious issues with pre-marital sex.
Btw, you can get some nasty STD's with anal sex. Genital warts is probably the big one. HPV can be transmitted during any sexual act. So there is no guarantee of not getting STD's with anal. There is a remote, and I mean extremely remote, chance you can get pregnant with anal, but it can happen (semen leaks out of your butt, somehow gets smeared on to your vagina and a sperm makes a run for your egg).
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you must have intercourse to lose ur virginity. anal or oral sex is not intercorse.
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Look at this way.
Imagine you were dating a guy and he told you he was a virgin.
Then, a few months later he tells you that he had anal sex with two girls, and he rubbed himself against their vagina.
Would you feel lied too?
I would. I would feel like he had actively tried to deceive me by calling himself a 'virgin' when he was clearly VERY sexually experienced, and he had exposed himself to both STDs and a small risk of pregnancy. (Anal Sex DOES include a small risk for pregnancy - it leaks. And the genital rubbing also include a risk of pregnancy. Although the risks are less than normal vaginal intercourse, they still exist. It is still SEX.)
Words have meaning so we can express ourselves to others, and be understood. If you’ve engaged in anal sex and rubbing like you’ve described here, and tell future partners you’re a virgin, that is NOT honest expression of your experience. That word will not be properly understood by others.
You might call yourself a virgin. You might feel you are still are technically a virgin after those acts. But you have a responsibility to be honest with your future sex partners about what your experiences have been. Calling yourself a ‘virgin’ would not be an honest reflection of your experiences if you have had anal sex and engaged in the other sex acts you’ve described here.
Stop trying to label ‘virgin’ or ‘not virgin’. Stop obsessing over the technicality. Just BE HONEST with yourself, and those who deserve to know your past experiences.
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I too am not sure of what your question is.
If you are asking what is the meaning of the term virginity, or if you fit the term as being a virgin? That too is open to interpretation in today's society.
The term virgin, originally has been taken to mean; pure, untouched, sexual novice. Meaning in the case of a women she is sexually inexperienced. By that definition and taking into consideration what you have written, many people may consider you a virgin any longer, even though your Hymen may be intact.
In today's society many consider a women who has not had sexual intercourse, penis to vagina penetration, to be a virgin. Others will say any women who has had any type of sex play such as handjobs, blowjobs, fingering or anal sex but not vaginal sex to be a technical virgin. There are many people who will tell you there is no such thing as being a technical virgin.
A woman can still be a virgin even if the Hymen is no longer intact provided there is never been any vaginal intercourse. Hymens can be broken from a variety of causes. Tampon insertion,and physical activities such as horseback riding and gymnastics are just a few of the reasons.
So depending on just what your question is you consider what I have written as the answers to what you are looking for.
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What is the question, I'm confused.
Are you saying you've had anal but not vaginal sex so therefore you are still a virgin? Fine - if that's the definition you want to apply, then go for it. It implies that all gay men are virgins of course! If you want to use the definition that the hymen must be broken, then technically it's possible for him to penetrate you & not break the hymen - congratulations, you are still a virgin. Oh - but some 9 year old horse riders are not!
The definition of virginity is open to interpretation [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) - so I guess you need to figure that out for yourself. If you want to tell people you are still a virgin, I am sure you will find a definition that fits your particular circumstances.
Or you can just sleep with the guy and remove all doubt :)
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