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He need to set things straight..
okay so i've been talking to this guy Javier for a while and it seemed like at first he was gonna ask me out and be happily ever after.
Recently though he had told me he lost interest and liked someone else and he still wanted to be friends.
a week after this we were texting (as friends would do)we he all of a sudden told me that when he saw me in school today, he wanted to kiss me. i told him that "stuff happens to make us feel thatt way" and then he went on to asking if i would have let him.
Me being honest i said probally but i would have been confused. He then mentioned that he missed the close intamacy that we had when we were talking-- even though it wasnt sexual.
ive already asked him to make up jis mind on what he want since i really don't feel like wasting my time for nothing, why fight for something you cant win?
i haven't had sex with him. i tld him i wouldnt unless we dated. i havent done anything sexual with him at all, no oral, no foreplay, a peck on the cheek, and a kiss on the neck, and a makeout session here and there but nothing too serious.
Should i just give up? or should i just be upfront about it?
16/f/junior in high school
17/m/senior in high school
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Only you can really answer this question. Step back and disengage your emotions from the question. Does he really have the qualities you want in a boyfriend and will he be steadfast in his support of you or is he just looking for the next convenient soft body to get with?
Both of you still have about ten years of growing up to do and need to think more about exploring life rather than getting tied down in relationships. So that he sounds confused and that confuses you isn't a surprise. Girls, though, mature faster than guys and he sounds like he really isn't as rock solid as you need in your life.
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You have to decide if he's worth your time. If I were you, personally I think that this guy is too indecisive like too many young guys are, I've been hurt by guys like that and it's often a sign that they are afraid of commitment. You are so young and you really don't want to to be bothered by someone who is so indecisive.
If you feel like he's worth it in spite of his indecisiveness be up front about your feelings, tell him that either he will decide that he wants to make you his girlfriend or you will move on and find someone else. Sometimes guys need that ultimatum, so that they know that they can't take us girls for granted.
Good luck!
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It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants and he's confused. And you sound like you don't want him to play around with you. It's up to you whether or not he's worth it. If I were you I wouldn't play his game. What if he does end up kissing you again and then the next week says he's into something else? I say move on and look for another guy who isn't going to play around with your heart. Good luck!
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