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I feel like a Failure
Ok im15f and I'm not super or real good at anything. I'm just average in school I get a's and b's and sometimes the occasional c but not only in school in sports I'm ok at them but I'm not good enough to get played which lowers my confidence I feel like a fail. I have no true hobby I'm not creative with my hands in my mind I am but there's no way I can express it cause I suck at writing also I can't speak infront of people like I get way to nervous so things aren't for me. I wanna do something in my life than just be a dud with barely any friends
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I parties my way through high school, graduated with a little above a C average and then buckled down in college and graduated with honors. So your future is NOT dim.
You're only 15. You still have plenty of time. High school, in the grand scheme of things, doesn't really count for much. So my advice is that you explore different fields and something will draw your interest. Go to junior college and you can take a lot of different courses before deciding on a major.
As for your writing. very few people write well. Take an advanced composition class at your school and if you work at it that will cure your perceived inability to convey your thoughts logically.
The fear of speaking in front of people is very common. Hell, there are rock stars who puke up before they go on stage they have such bad nerves. I personally don't have that problem, though. Preparedness promotes confidence plus I've always been rather articulate.
So what you need to do is relax, keep your eyes open for opportunities and interesting things and don't overthink. You are going to grow up so much between now and when you graduate from high school it isn't funny. It would help if you read a lot. Sometimes things in books can light a spark plus it's just good for your mental development.
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When I was in school I was average I got Bs and Cs meanwhile my sister would get As and Bs. My parents decided I should play sports such as basketball and softball. I would play a forward for basketball but no one would ever pass me the ball I guess I was jsut better on defense. Meanwhile my sister was the center and would be the top scoring player in most of the games. She won all these awards too. Softball I pitched and was mainly in the outfield...I hated being in the outfield and I barely even hit when I was up at bat. My sister was the all start catcher and got the most hits and the awards continued.
Luckily for me when I was younger I found something I loved. I loved theatre and music. I joined theatre groups went to an all arts high school and was in many choirs I even sang at my graduation. Everyone has something they are good at or passionate about. What do you like to do? What makes you happy? Think about what you like to do and what is a way that you can express yourself. You don't have to speak to express yourself. Maybe draw or paint. Maybe take up learning to play an instrument. Do something that challenges you but makes you feel alive. I'm a vocalist and whenever I see I'm on top of the world! Keep your head up and keep going! Good luck!
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You are SO not a dud!
At 15, anything is possible for you! OK, so you get average results in school, so you're average. So what? Being creative isn't just about writing or speaking in front of people. Lots of people are creative in a million different ways, think of all the people who paint pictures, knit, crochet, make cards, sew, make rugs, lace, models, style hair, the list is endless!
Your creative life could start here! Look in local directories or ask your family if they know anywhere that teaches craft courses, pick one you like and go for it. You might even find a friend there!
If you don't like one, try another. You'll have a ball and gain plenty of friends in no time. Give it a try!
I'm very 'crafty' so perhaps I can suggest something if you run out of ideas, so let me know how it goes? Good luck!!
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You may not believe this now but to offer you some reassurance about how you're feeling - you are not a failure, trust me you're not. You're 15 and you still have most of high school left to complete and college. If you want to have better than average grades research study techniques, until you find the method of studying that you like and that helps you get the best results.
As far as not knowing what your real passions and hobbies are, you will discover what you like doing when you get older. Experiment with different crafts that interest you, for example crafts such as jewelry-making, latch-hooking, sewing, knitting, cross-stitching. Writing is a good way of expression, maybe you could get into writing or start reading books? Don't worry if you're not any good at writing first, for some people it takes them awhile.
One of the reasons why it's so hard to be 15 is because you are very much still finding yourself and what interests you, you don't know who you are yet because you are so young. Five or ten years from now, you will be much happier because you will know who you are more.
I hope that I was able to make you feel better in some way.
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