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How do I get someone to admit they like me as more than a sex partner?
Okay so i guess my question is how can i get my fuck buddy to actually admit her likes me more then a buddy? It all started about 6 months ago we met talked most of the night after me and my roomie were out at the bars.At the time he had had a girl friend and well i never asked we just talked. Then they broke up and and him and I would hook up quite often. Well about 2 weeks ago my roomie went outta town and i didnt wanna be in my conplex by myself as we had recently had a murder happen.My roomate and I had also asked him if he wanted to be a 3rd roomate and he said yes. Well its coming up on the last couple days of 2 weeks during that time he has introduced me to his friends saying things like " ya my girlfriend knows how to cook" but when i gatherd the courage to ask him about the whole girl friend thing i asked him " we arent dating right?" and he responded back no were not. But things he says to me here and there insuaiates gf/bf status but when i ask he says no. All i wanted was someone to stay with me to feel safe and hes only been here maybe 5 nights outta the 2 weeks. Im confused and dont know what to do. Any advice would be much apprecaited.
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He likely wants you to be his girlfriend. However, he is waiting for some really obvious sign from you that you are interested in him that way because he doesn't want to really put himself out there and then suffer the ego killer of getting shot down.
So the ball is in your court. You can tell him you would like to be boyfriend-girlfriend with him if he is up for it. If he is evasive, you are going to have to decide if you want to continue seeing him as a sex friend. Whatever the case, you two definitely need to set in stone what your status is. Take the bull by the horns and dictate the situation rather than just sitting there trying to read his mind.
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Ever heard of communication? State what you want. Ask him if he wants the same. Tell him that if he doesn't it's better you go your separate ways, and if he does you should go out on a date and actually spend some time getting to know each other.
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i agree with the prefious answer since you gave yourslef to him first really what is he waiting for. since he's telling you no that you arent in a relationship then there it is my advice to you would be " DONT PURSUE A PERSON WHO ISNT TRYING TO PURSUE YOU" u can find better hun
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This may not be the answer you want to hear... but chances are, you're still just a sex partner to him. When you give him all of yourself first, what are you making him wait for? If he gets the benefit of a relationship/marriage he wants the most without actually being committed, what would make him want to be committed?
I'm not saying you're unworthy of his heart, because I'm sure you're a wonderful person. BUT he might not be seeing you as a wonderful person- he might just be seeing you as a wonderful lover. By having sex with him you're not giving him anything to work for. You're basically saying he can have you for free...
Issues like this come up a lot when people are sex partners purely for the sex.. so I suggest you tell him you either want to be in a relationship with him or just be friends without the benefits. Being upfront with him like that will force him to admit that he either has feelings for you, or that the wrong feelings are there.
Hope I helped. Didn't mean to sound harsh if I was.
God bless! I'll pray for your situation to get better.
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